We live in the same house he works 12 hours a day then he goes out with his friends after work we have kids together i stay at home with the kids all day long he moved us to another state away from all my friends and family. I just want him around more i have told him this every day he just seems to be ignoring my requests. what else could i do?
2007-02-08 15:22:25 · 7 answers · asked by haterage 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is a very hard question....think about your children's future! Think about what is best for them....you are a major influence in the lives of your children. I know that a father figure is important, but sometimes it can do more damage than good. There are so many wonderful guys out there that would probably love to treat you like a queen...just put your children first! I know that sounds awful, b/c he should be doing his part also....do you have family that could help...could you possibly move back???? Maybe that would make him think?
2007-02-08 15:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by dont worry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l would say that the worst mistake you made was moving away from your family and friends. Of course you are lonely and missing the company of your friends. l would suggest that you tell him again about your concerns but this time tell him he either changes his ways and spends more time with you and your children or you will go back home again to the people who care about you. l'm sure that should do it and if not you two weren't meant to be anyway. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-09 00:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be HAPPY Be HAPY Be HAPPY.. if a man is winning with you he tries harder, if he is losing he will go away. I know you are frustratedbeing with the jkids all day and he works all day so at the end of the day you need a break and HE NEEDS a break. If he gets a break with you, he will enjoy spedning time with you... you are happy, happy to see him, cuddle with him, ask about his day, smile, flirt... all those things you did before the kids and marriage. If he comes home and you need him to do htis and that and are angry and tired and frustreted and unhappy... he will go out with the guys to get a break. So start rrying this little by litttl enad your life will change! log onto www.celebratingwomen.com for seminars on this... it changed my realtionship with men!
2007-02-08 23:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by drjen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it were me I would make plans to go do somethings to meet new friends, and I would tell him he needs to be home to watch the kids, so you can go. I would just tell him, if he don't want to spend any time with you, and he moved you away from your friends you are gonna get out and make new friends that do want to spend time with you! Good luck!
2007-02-10 22:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by Broadgonebiker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calling dr.phil,calling dr.phil..........if you want me to be on your side, i would say that you deser-e his attention and he should gi-e it to you.....reguardless!!!!....to the play de-il's ad-ocate, maybe instead of complaining you should put a little effort in satisfying his "requests"!!!!....i could be, and i am probably am, way off!!!....i was just trying to gi-e you a different perspecti-e.good luck............the key between "c" and "b" doesn't work , that's why i hae so many "-" ....sorry
2007-02-08 23:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by michael m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling him if he won't be attentive to your needs, you won't be attentive to his (or threaten to take the kids and leave).
2007-02-08 23:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mistake you made is that he is your "boyfriend" and not your husband.
2007-02-08 23:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋