why do women stay with men who treat them wrong?

Question

seen alot of men treating there ladies wrong was wondering why stay with them.

Answer 1

Well talking from experience, I was in a battered relationship for 4 years. I finally got the nerve to leave him, after I was stupid enough to marry him and have a kid by him. My final breaking point, wasn't him cheating constantly, having other kids by women he cheated with, Talking down to me, calling me names, hitting me after doing his choice of drug and alcohol. The final breaking point for me was when he beat the heck out of me while I was holding my 7 month old daughter. I found a way to escape. But still being away from him, I still talked to him, still loved him. I just couldn't emotionally be done with him. He told me he was sorry, he would get help. I almost believed him, until today I find out he claimed my daughter on his taxes and he had no right to. The money that I was suppose to get back to start my life with my baby, he used to buy drugs, and hang out. That definetly opened my eyes, he's selfish, doesn't care about me and doesn't care about his daughter. It's was much harder for me, because he was my 1st love, 1st sexual partner. Everyone has their different reasons, but in the end, it's all the same. We have heard it for so long now, we start to believe it's true. That we deserve it, but we don't! We are much stronger then we think. We just got to look inside ourselves, and find that person we were before we got with the loser. If I got out, Other people can too. Reach out to those people that try to help, but you are to afraid that your spouse might find out. Let them help you, if not for yourself, then for your kids.

Answer 2

You know, I ask that question all the time especially when you have a friend who comes to you telling me about her husband did this and that, he hasn't changed a bit. Or, her husband talks to my husband about she did this and that and they just can't seem to get along!

Not only can men treat women wrong, but women can treat men wrong too. It goes both ways. Usually those are the women who don't have any other place to go because they have kids and need the income. Or, they say that they love him/her that they can't leave. What gets to me is, they always seem to find the easiest way out by wanting to get a divorce and not deal with the problems, or instead of fixing the problems in their marriage. Like an easy way out!

It is sad though when kids are involved because they are the ones who suffer the most.

Answer 3

They stay with them because they love them even though the guy is a jerk and being mean to them. Alot of these women have low self esteems and they feel that they cannot do any better then this. These men know this too and they play on it and take advantage of it.

Answer 4

Because in many situations, the woman has severe self-esteem issues, and in our society, women are validated by the men in their lives. Sad but true. Also, many women don't see loving, stable relationships, and simply imitate what they grew up with, perpetuating the cycle. The blame is not only with the women; many men are not taught to respect and value relationships. The media doesn't help the situation; in today's media, sex, relationships, marriage and parenting are treated lightly, with scorn and disrespect. All of these things are important; as humans, we value them, and are damaged when they go badly. I guess you could say it's on both sides: women need to reassess their worth and not accept less than the best in a relationship, and men need to realize that the images of "super stud" or misogyny are damaging to relationships. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 5

Mr. Swaggs worded it perfectly and along the lines what I was gonna say too!

Being that I've "been there", 2wice married, I've endured verbal abuse. Some women feel we deserve it.
well, I grew up in the abuse environment, and when you "live" it, once older, it's hard to distinguish between when being around someone who will abuse, and someone who doesn't. I, for one didn't see the signs first of a potential abuser, but women like us tend to "seek out" this kind of person unconsciously., so when life gets rough, we don't see the problem in front of us.

Answer 6

when growing up these women had no father figure or dad was too busy working, so their self worth didn't develop like it should have, and when they began dating they settled for less than what they should have. married the wrong man, was flattered by the attention they were getting from him, unable to see who he really was. than after married she stayed hoping things would change because she wasn't independent financially and couldn't leave. she put faith in the wrong man, because she couldn't see the truth, as if her self worth was good, and she felt deserving of a good life she would have left him when things began to go bad.

Answer 7

Because there self esteem is so bad, they think the only kind of guys that they can attract are the ones that mistreat them. They don't think they deserve any better. Surely you've heard of the term nice guys finish last? It fits here very appropriately.

Answer 8

same reason that men stay with women that abuse them.. its just they dont have the courage to change or stand up to these scum.. and well its hard sometimes .. you have to stay put for certain reasons and sometimes you dont have a choice.You made one at the first but it was wrong now you have to live with your choices.. its not right but its the truth.. happens

Answer 9

1) it's familiar
2) they don't realize that they deserve better
3) it can be very confusing if a man acts charming and nice and then acts mean - we want to believe that our strong feelings of love wouldn't betray us, we think it won't happen again
4) not enough support for women who go it alone

Answer 10

that an easy answerer (cause they love them) I seen men beat there woman and .I tell them leave him and they tell me but .I love him. what is it you love and some woman just don't want be alone .and some woman are needy.they settle instead of waiting not for Mr right. cause there is no Mr Right .....not in is world......