Sister in law has two kids, 5 and 3.
I am married, have an 18 month old and another due in August.
I do not have a bad relationship with my sister in law. She is a little nosey though. I think it is unreasonable and is asking too much to temporarily move in. I believe this is not in the best interest of my own family. I cherish time alone with my wife and son because my job requires me to travel. My sister in law has a good job/salary and should be able to manage this situation herself. She wants a couple of months to find a new place and save some money. Her father does not agree with the divorce, so moving in with him is probably not an option. She does not have a good relationship with him either. My wife would like to help her out with this, but respects what I want too. Your thoughts to my quesiton would be much appreciated. Thanks.
2007-02-08 15:05:16 · 9 answers · asked by Makr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It'd be best to help your sister-in-law find a really cheap apartment.
If she wants to move in, tell her that she needs to get steady herself, otherwise she might as well not leave the house she currently resides in. You home is simply YOUR home, YOUR santuary, and no one should share that with you.
Personally, if I were you, I wouldn't mind letting her stay a few days, but don't let her get used to it.
Your children and her children need thier own space, especially with the new baby coming.
2007-02-08 15:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by Pristine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have the right to live there throughout the term of your lease but if you have been paying 1500.00 a month, that is alot. I do not know what area you are in but here that's high. If you like living there you should or could consider buying it. Look at the paper close , contact the bank and let them know you are interested in purchasing it or just show up and bid on it if it is auctioned. You might get a deal. You could possibly talk to your landlord find out the payoff/ this could really give you leverage.Educate yourself with the whole process. I think if you can prove you have paid that much for over a year you may can buy without many problems.
2016-05-23 23:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows her better than her own father, and he doesn't want her to move in??? RED FLAG. Also, forego the excuses cause it will only make for hard feelings. Let your yes be yes and your no be no. In this case if it is no....keep i t simple cause no explanation will be good enough. If you think it unreasonable because you are being selfish thats one thing. But if you think it is unreasonable because its unreasonable...then the answer is ....I'm so sorry but we can't help right now. We could. ________ (fill in the blank). Talk with your wife, the two of you might give her $200 to help defray costs or babysit for the two kids or even keep the two kids for 2-3 days at a time so she has time to run around and take care of the details of moving..... if you and your wife agree on what you CAN do and are willing to do.....then you can feel very comfortable saying NO to the living thing.
2007-02-08 15:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should allow your sister-in-law to move in but arrange a meeting between you, your wife and your sister-in-law. You may want to talk to her about a trial period in which you give her 2 weeks after the date she moves in to be tested for how responsibly and adequately she handles her stay with your family.
You can also ask her to pitch in some money for using your electricity, hydro, etc. just so she knows that she's in someone else's home. Talk to her about her and her kids' schedule so that it doesn't clash with your own family's schedule. You would surely be irritated if she is up at midnight watching television. I think if you agree to let her stay in your home, you are doing a great deed and I'm sure you know, what goes around comes around and one day when your hands are tied up I'm sure someone will open up their home with welcoming hands. This world is about give and take and the more you give the more happiness you will get. You should be thankful that it's not you whose in a divorce and that you are so fortunate that you have the opportunity to help another human being to settle down in life. Good luck with your decision. You sound like someone who always wants the best for everyone.
2007-02-08 15:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by Windflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When making a decision like this, I ask myself, what is this person characterized by? Are they typically responsible and are just in a temporary bind, or are they characterized by irresponsible behaviors and mooching? If they are responsible and just need a short spurt of help, then I think I would help. This could be you one day and what if everyone said "Nope, can't help, sorry!"
Perhaps you have some event coming up and you can say, "You can stay with us until May 10th. We will help you set goals and set up a plan and find a place, so that you'll be ready by that time."
2007-02-08 15:12:30 · answer #5 · answered by AnswerGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
People are nice and sweet when you know them, but living with them is a total different thing altogether.
You might want to suggest a rental some where or even a motel.
Please don't fall in a trap that will later be hard to get out of......because what if 1 or 2 months turn into 1 or 2 years......these are the things you can't foreseen.
Keep peace between you and her and say NO to drugs and her moving in with you.
2007-02-08 15:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by Lana817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to consider helping her find an apartment on a temporary basis.
2007-02-08 15:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jolly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. No Way!!
2007-02-08 15:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you decide to do give her a timeline and stick to your guns.
2007-02-08 15:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋