Should I obey him always?

Question

Sometimes my husband tells me to do things which I really don't agree with. Should I disobey him or just go along with it without question?

Answer 1

Honey, get real. Get yourself some self-respect and tell this guy to get stuffed. Woman created man. Remember that.

Answer 2

when we marry someone it become a give and take relationship-you are his wife-you teach your children to obey you and your husband and not to disobey the two of you-not your wife-if you don't agree with something he said tell him about it and let him know why you are not going to do that-you are his wife so how are you disobeying him-you can disagree are agree with what he is saying are telling you-kids disobey not a grown person-you don't disobey your parents-in a marriage there have to be respect for each other and you both have to think about each others feelings when you are asking them to do something for you-marriage is give and take and you can disagree and not cause a argument-talk about those things that you don't like and listen to what he have to say and then you can agree are disagree to what ever it is that is asked of you-marriage is a two way street -not a one way-if it is there will be trouble in the marriage sooner or later,talk,talk and talk some more until the two of you understand the likes and dislikes about each other-letting things go can break up a good relationship/marriage

Answer 3

It is the 21st Century and NO- we don,t obey.
We should respect each other and if you love someone
you wouldn,t do that. When you have a happy marriage
you ask each other. My husband wouldn,t dream of
ordering me about. I hope you get the strengh follow
your instincts - because to have to come on here and
ask what we think I worry that you may be being in the
hands of a bully. Take Care and Good Luck.

Answer 4

NO. You were not put on this earth to be controlled by someone who is supposed to be your lifes partner, Are you a dog that does tricks for it's master? You are a member of a very important club WOMANHOOD, if you come from a culture where it is expected that you should obey use your WOMANHOOD to manoeuvre the situation without him even noticing. Go girl Go.

Answer 5

I think it depends on the demand.
I found out years after my dad died that My mother drank "tea" because my father said so!!!!
She drank cordial for the same reason!!!!!
I was so amazed when I found out.
That was just stupid.
There is only ever one director in any business and a home is a small business, so it's ok for him to have the final say but not over personal stuff that only affects you.
I refuse to go on the personal watercraft with him as I DONT like it. That is affects me, not us.
I do what he asks most times and often let him do what he wants and I just trust that God will look after me. AND HE HAS. We live in the area I wanted to live in, and I never had to nag or argue.
But then I trust God with my life because he has always come through for me.

Answer 6

after reading the other answers i know this is not going to be a popular reply

in my wedding vows i did promise to love honour and obey - this was a choice i made with my husband

i obey Him always as i know that every decision He makes is for the best for me and for our relationship

i know He will never order me to do anything that is harmful to me or illegal or immoral so i have no concerns about this obedience

this doesn't make me a robot or mindless or a doormat - my husband values me and cares for me and does listen to my opinion when i give it


in our relationship He is very much in control and i like it that way

so my answer to you is - noone can tell you whether you have to obey but yourself - is it in your heart to do so? - do you have worries over the decisions he makes?

take care

Answer 7

Don't do the things if it is illegal or could hurt someone. If you think your husband is breaking the law, then you need to tell him, but you don't need to go along with him if you know that it is wrong. And, tell him why you don't think it is a wise thing to do.

Answer 8

If you are referring to the biblical definition of obey.....then you need to read it in context.... because the man is to love his wife and make her blameless and beautiful....if he is a good Christian man who cherishes you and makes decisions based on the good of your marriage then obeying is more a matter of discipline than dissention. But if he is not keeping up his end of this, pray for him. Talk with a Pastor. There is a great deal of power in submitting. I know it doesn't sound like it. But I had it described to me this way. Submitting to the power of God is like allowing the electric company to power your house. You are bound by certain rules and disciplines (payments) but the rewards far outweigh that and electric gives you so much freedom.....I'm having a difficult time describing it here and I am sure the other board members are going to make chopped liver out this...lol the other part of the analogy is something like....when you submit to a man, it is like he is the Captain of your ship. He reads the stars and makes decisions about guiding and leading your family (ship). But you, you run the ship (and for me, who cares where its going!! lol I am so glad when my husband takes care of all that responsibility so that I can focus on my kids, my house and our relationship)......so I have a tremendous amount of freedom by submitting to their authority....In this analogy, my husband is the Captain of the Ship and God controls the ocean...two things that appealed to me when I was younger and head-strong.... I thought I could never submit...but now, I say HOORAY!!! I love my little life....lol

Answer 9

If it is something extreme, then no you shouldn't obey him. If my husband ASKS me to do something, I go ahead and do it because he does the same for me. I would not let a man tell me what to do though.

Answer 10

You should talk to him and discuss things that you don't agree with. You either have to convince him that he is wrong or he has to convince you. A relationship is about talking things through and deciding on a way to make both of you happy.