2007-02-08 14:42:41 · 12 answers · asked by maw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I work for a divorce attorney, I can't tell you how important it is to keep proof of all of the money you give her. Don't give her cash. Write checks with "child support" in the memo. Keep all of your bank statements and cancelled checks. At least make her give you a hand written receipt if you only have cash. You won't be sorry!
2007-02-08 15:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by Laura C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it you're not LEGALLY sepearated. I suggest you get a legal seperation. Paying in cash is not recommended since there is no record of payments made. If it were a legal seperation your lawyer would have advised you to either get a money order or have the money debited from your account every month by the court and have THEM pay the child support. That way it is noted in all of the court documents that it has been paid. This will cover YOUR butt in the event she would want to claim the money wasn't paid. If you simply handed her cash she could turn around and sue you in court saying the money was never paid...and since there is no tangible evidence to prove her wrong you'll have to pay it all again.
2007-02-08 22:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is admirable that you wish to care for your children, but in this case, go to an attorney and set up child support. Though the separation seems amicable, you need some form of stable child support, now and in the future. Though money orders and checks are a good idea, there needs to be some "ground rules" regarding child support now. If you two get back together, fine. If not, then this is extremely important NOW that these arrangements are made, to avoid any misunderstandings or court issues. Good luck and God bless.
2007-02-08 22:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Judy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is gracious of you to help out, but get a Money Order or Check and keep a record of everything. I don't care if you buy anything at all, keep a record of it. Cash will be your word against hers when you go to court.
2007-02-08 22:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. You are a responsible father just make sure that the money is used for what you are giving and not not for drugs but honest there is never enough money that you an count for the kids because taking care of the kids are a very big thing. Thanks for your wife that she is helping you by taking care of them. Its both ways so you shouldn't feel that you are giving money for the kids. and as usually write a check.
2007-02-08 22:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you pay child support and this money is above and beyond this is for the love of your children and there welfare how can you put a price on that? Pay in the form of a cheque and that will be a reciept. Take care Heather
2007-02-08 22:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alway use a check or a money order . It may be important ofr you in future proceedings to prove your good intentions and actions. Good luck and it's nice to hear you are helping and thinking of them unlike many other that don't
2007-02-08 22:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by haroldhark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ever pay in cash, as there is no record of it, she can always say u gave her nothing. if u have no proof if the question ever comes up u haven't got a leg to stand on. always protect yourself.
2007-02-09 09:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you did a good thing, but if ur planning on the big d then ull need proff for court that you have helped her, so yeah a mo would be good. Good for u to help! ups! and sorry to hear!
2007-02-08 22:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by sweetnlovenkindagurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use check or money order so you have a record.
2007-02-08 22:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋