your hubby stop kissing you?

Question

I've only been married four months...and he doesn't even kiss me like he used to. I just don't get it. Nothing has changed, besides the fact that we're married. He just gives me quick pecks on the mouth...and i miss the kisses that took my breath away. How to tell him? What to do?

well, that first answer wasn't very helpful i must say...

yes that's my real pix.

why go through all the trouble of convincing me to marry him when he only go gay four months later? doubhtful.

(with the earlier note about the 'convincing..' I was so afraid of marriage it was crazy.)

Answer 1

I have been married for 2 1/2 years. This is my second marriage. Sometimes people change after marriage. He is done with the courting part. Now comes the responsable husband role. MEn are different than women. The sure do not think the same. For us we think that it should not change, for them they don't even know that it changes. And if they do realize it, they don't see that it is a big deal. You are still newlyweds. Just tell him that you have something important to talk about. Then sit down and explain to him how you feel. Do not get angry. Just talk. Tell him that you miss the passion, that you understand how busy your lives have become, but you also need passion, romance from time to time. I might also suggest that when he does kiss or touch you, make sure you tell him how good it makes you feel. That he is a wonderful husband. Make sure you praise him for everything he does right. I have found that men like to get patted on the back daily. If you tell him how good he looks, and that he really turns you on, it makes him feel good about himself. For instance.... I found myself in your same shoes. I talked to him about it, well to be honest he didn't quite get the point. So, when he would pass me, and just brush up against me, I would tell him how nice it felt, how it made me feel. Then eventually the brushing against me went into his hand running across my back or stomache. Trust me I do need to remind him a lot. Like when I am standing there, I just say hey, get over here and kiss me. Makeing it playful. He knows how it feels for me, so he is more egar to do it. When you have sex, ask him to start off by kissing you, then your neck and so forth. Men just don't get it. You have to tell them. And I have found that with my husband he enjoys doing as I ask in the bedroom. Don't get me wrong, I don't ask each and every time. Just be open and honest. DO NOT BE PUSHY. Good luck.

Answer 2

We all have great expectations for ourselves---every label brings with it new expectations. So now, your husband has his new label....husband, provider, protector...whatever that means to him. He may be feeling a little insecure or dumbfounded by the whole thing. Make sure he knows how much you love and respect him. Spend some time with him watching him work, say nothing. Men need the four A's: admiration, acknowledgement, attention, appreciation...its the stuff we do naturally when we are dating them...and they feel like they've done something wrong if it stops after marriage. He may not have enough money to take you out the way he used to..... suggest some freebie dates.....and get him to take you out. don't let this continue....its only a crack in the cement that keeps you together right now...but it can turn into a cavern in a heartbeat.... this is the "work" of marriage....honestly talking with each other and making attempts to keep bringing the two of you back together.....

Answer 3

My husband is the complete opposite. We have been married 7 months and when he was here (he is in Iraq now) we would kiss alllll the time.

Why don't you take the initiative and give him long passionate kisses?

And YIKES...he had to convince you to marry him. Not a good sign! Be more affectionate with him and he will return the favor. Tell him he is gorgeous, hot, sexy...make him feel good about himself.

Well, I can tell you right now. If I were to have considered marrying my ex-bf, I would feel nervous, afraid, scared, doubtful. When I married my husband, I felt none of these things. I did not have the slightest doubt in my mind about him. If I was scared and he had to convince me, I wouldn't have gotten married.

But what I suggest to you is to go talk to your man and find out what is going on. Ask him why he doesn't kiss you the way he used to. Communication is key in a marriage!

Answer 4

Tell him. The best thing you can do throughout your marriage is tell each other the truth. It's been a while back (8 years), but I think that happened to my husband and me, too. It was tough then, but I can totally see why our marriage was so hard at first. If you can "check" yes to the following then it can only get better: college, work, overtime, no money, family too close, figuring how to pay bills, lots of wants, and being young (21 and 20). You want the fairy tale and life is not a fairy tale. Give him lots of love and support and expect that in return. Good luck.

Answer 5

Yep, I've been there too. I've been married for 2 1/2 years and I think things have just moved so fast for us. We got married, got pregnant 6 months after we were married, and now we have a beautiful little girl, but it sure has changed out marriage. We aren't as affectionate anymore and don't compliment each other like we used too. Anyway, I really don't have any advice for ya, just wanted to let you know you're not alone!

Answer 6

well did you brush your teeth ? do you have bad teeth ? heck i dont know it sounds like its marriage time.. lol reality ..i think that marriage should be have to be renewed every year then the partners would stop slipping up.I have been married for five years second wife and if she gave me long kisses I would wonder whats up.. it gets worse dear.. so maybe you guys should divorce every year and remarry and then maybe he will fire back up or well at least you have a chance to find another romantic that will last about that long thats why people change partners so often now they expect the fantasy to last .. not going to happen so well next best thing divorce remarried divorce remarry its just never going to be new all the time and sweetie it gets worse lol

Answer 7

Tell him you're worried about him, when he asks you why tell him he doesn't kiss you anymore like he used to do before you got married. If he gives you a cheap story about how he still loves you and that you don't have to do that anymore then he's seeing someone else. If he apologizes and gives you a big wet one then hes been preoccupied with work or life and needs to talk and doesn't want to worry you. Moral support and allot of good loving will cure that. The other is the other woman. Best of luck!

Answer 8

You need to get out more.flirt a bit, get excited as often as you can. You only live once. You need to feel wanted and loved, if he is not giving that to you, then there are a lot of guys that will, just be safe and don't get caught. Become sexually independent that is where all the real action is. Heck why waist it on one man who don't satisfy your needs, it is just crazy.
Play the Field b4 u dump him.
Damn it is his loss, why should it be yours?

Answer 9

I'd say make him feel special.

Go to places you've been to before and jog his memory of old, happy memories with you.
Another great place to to get his attention, is on a cruise or a vacation as fun and romantic at that.

Make sure when he's horny to make him feel like the king, and buy yourself sexy little outfits to run around in, to get him curious.

Be sure to make him want more of you sexually, but also set a mysterious, yet intriguing sex style.

He should be feeling much better after sex.

Answer 10

tell him a kiss should last as long as it takes to say I LOVE YOU. OK i checked out your blog and don't take this the wrong way but is there a cultural difference do his parents kiss shoot your kinda cute Id kiss ya all the time.