Ok im 38 happily married 16 yrs to a great guy and totally satisfied with our sex life but sometimes i think about how fun a fling would be..I would never cheat on my husband cause i love him more then anything and he is my whole life..What is wrong with me..Could the reason be because i was 21 and still a virgin when i met hubby and never had the experience of being with another guy.
2007-02-08 14:33:05 · 9 answers · asked by lisa c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wasnt a virgin when i married him was a virgin when i met him.
2007-02-08 14:45:57 · update #1
Well billy bob nothing missing in my marriage and no im not gonna go and cheat on the man i love.
2007-02-08 14:47:04 · update #2
Go ahead and live it up lady! The women on this forum say its ok to get plenty of c0ck even after marriage. See if there is something missing in the marriage, they'll say its cool.
Just wait year before you tell your husband. Then, like most women, you can say its in the past and is doesn't matter anymore.
Wemen, you know what I'm talking about.
2007-02-08 14:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by Billy Bob D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I found myself smiling a little at your question. Most marriages go through a period of boredom; we question the "dark side" of sex and relationships, and mull over the what ifs. Well, having talked to friends, flings may seem like fun at the time; frankly, they release endorphins that are temporarily uplifting. The problem is when the endorphins are gone, the guilt settles in, the possibility of getting caught and ruining your marriage, the possibility of pregnancy or STDs...you see the problem. If you are not really serious about a fling, consider it just a thought. If the idea is starting to have merit, it may be time to tweak up your marriage. Get some counseling. Get a weekend getaway. Get "The Kama Sutra" or "The Joy of Sex" books and spice up the bedroom! But most importantly, if you love him and he loves you...and you're good in the bedroom and out of it, congratulations! You already have a relationship that many would kill for. Good luck and God bless.
2007-02-08 15:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by Judy W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It probably is due to being a virgon when you married your husband and of course your mind is going to wonder about the unknown. It is only normal to think about things that you have never done and wish you had or just plain wonder what all the fuss is about.
But let me tell you a fling would never compare to being in love and making love with your husband as there isn't that un spoken bond that you and your hubby share.
Your mind is allowed to go where ever you want it too - just never act on a fantasy that could ruin your life and marriage - as it would never ever be worth it.
2007-02-08 14:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That might be part of it. You haven't been out there and "sown your oats" so to speak. While I don't have those thoughts...my fantasies are quite different, I think it's ok as long as you don't act upon them and you are still happy with hubby. But, I think if you actually tested the waters, you will have much regret.
2007-02-08 14:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by Groovy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
MID LIFE CRISSES IS APROACHING, my mom left my dad for two years because of these feelings and came back , it happens a lot if you love your husband ride it out it will kill him inside .
2007-02-08 14:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by SE7EN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and it is completely natural to wonder.
2007-02-08 15:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by n0s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you,re thinking about it you,re going to do it ,sry just the way i see it
2007-02-08 15:01:45 · answer #7 · answered by indm45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why hell you asking then if you don't want to cheat i hope you don't it ruins marriges
2007-02-12 10:57:27 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out there and get some strange azz
2007-02-08 14:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋