they're not forcing me to not marry him but they always say that I will regret marrying him because I used to be shallow and only date hot guys. I'm sure I won't regret because I love him and he's so sweet. but they say that I'm marrying him to just to get out of the house (I still live with my parents) not because I love him.
well, that might be another reason why I'm marrying him but not the only reason, is it ok to marry someone not just because you love him but because of some other reasons as well?
they're really making me feel guilty and they always say that I will regret, how do I prove to them that I won't?
and what's so bad about marrying someone because of many reasons not just one reason, isn't that the case with all marriages, they marry because they wanna get settled, and because they love their partner and because they wanna have their own home?
2007-02-08 14:32:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is his pic http://www.flickr.com/photos/23156252@N00/384245827/
what would your opinion be if you were my parents, the one standing next to him is not me, I'm prettier lol
please no stupid comment, just your honest opinion.
2007-02-08 14:34:33 · update #1
yup it's his sister :)
I don't think he's ugly too, but he thinks he's sooooooooo ugly.......low self esteem :)
2007-02-08 14:51:43 · update #2
The out ward apperance does not matter here. His heart is what matters and how he treats you. Follow your heart and marry him if you choose too... They are not the ones marrying him you are. They will just have to live with and accept it whether they like or approve of it or not. You are an adult and they should respect and treat you as such. You may want to move out and get a place of your own so you are not under their rules and scrutiny so much. You will not regret it at all. As long as you are marrying him for the right reasons and he is the right one for you then go for it and dont let anyone tell you otherwise. I feel that you love him. As long as you are and adult they have no right to choose your husband for you . It is your choice hon. I dont think he looks bad at all.. He does not look that fat and he is far from being ugly. My oldest daughter is 20 and dating Robbie and he is stocky like your guy and he is not ugly and we love him and he treats her like a queen and i already think of him like my son in law. Weight has nothing to do with who the person is inside. We think the world of Rob and he really loves my daughter and i feel he is the right on for her! I want them to marry and give me grandbabies someday:) Follow your heart and do what you feel it right. Tell your guy that i for one dont think he is that much over weight and he definitley is not ugly at all! By the way who is in the pic with him? Is that his sister? She looks a little like him:) That is why i am asking.
2007-02-08 14:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing..
1. Is he your best friend?
2. Do you laugh a lot together?
3. Can you tell him anything?
4. Do you trust him to be your partner through thick and thin?
5. Can you imagine your life without him?
You need to examine all the answers to these questions...You need to ask yourself if you are marrying him for the right reasons and if there is any truth to what your parents say. (About just wanting to move out.) If you are marrying this man because he is your best friend, the best partner for you, and you absolutely cannot imagine your life without him, than in my opinion (and others may disagree) you are marrying him for the right reasons.
About his looks...Some people get to know each other, and fall in love with someone they could have never pictured themselves with. You may not even see the "bad stuff" or what other people percieve as unattractive. You may find it all beautiful because all of those things are wrapped up in a person you adore.
He may not be who your family or friends pictured you to end up with, or even who you pictured yourself to end up with. But if you make each other happy, then the people that love you should be happy for you, too. Besides, he's not marrying them, he's marrying you. (Thank God)
{My in-laws don't like me, but my husband and I are deliriously in love, and once you grow up an are out from under your parent's thumb a bit more, chances are you won't really care as much what your parent's think (which is what happened with my husband)}
The bottom line, if you really love someone, who cares if your parents, your friends or anyone else thinks they are "ugly" or "fat". Best of luck...you will figure it out.
2007-02-08 14:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by Crabigail 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He looks like a great guy. And just imagine what the suprise could be behind the extra weight. Maybe he will lose it. Maybe not. But I think if he treats you good and makes you happy ... hes a keeper.
I'd date an overweight guy. I don't like bone thin guys though.
My parents and friends said ... my now husband... then friend ... was "dorky" and they didn't see why we were together.
Now my parents love him ... my friends love him ..... because how he is there for me .... and he is a part of the family.
Now we are jointly dorky.... cuz I was a dork all along!
2007-02-08 14:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with the way he looks. I think that it is your decision to be with whoever you decide to be with. If you know that you truly love him, then that is all that should matter and come soon, your parents will realize the same thing. As for other reasons to marry him, it's ok, but as long as you know that you do love him. That is all that matters. Wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-08 14:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by nothing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom and dad should not be calling you fat. If it hurts you this lots then you definately would desire to tell them approximately it. they might desire to offer up. this would injury you existence-long. you will possibly no longer know it now, even though it will make you self concious consistently. Your no longer grotesque. no person is. each physique is beautiful in there own particular way. i be conscious of you think of that I sound CORNY . Dont enable anyone ever allow you to be conscious of , you aint beautiful.
2016-12-17 05:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by lacross 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant see the picture (it says its set to private?) but he sounds like a great guy!!
2007-02-08 17:25:03 · answer #6 · answered by jennifer b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋