Instead of calming you down.........
2007-02-08 14:31:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
women are basicly evil
2007-02-08 14:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by Samy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the wife or gf in the situation.. I dont do this to my husband i try to calm him down and talk to him and be there for him through it all. Some men have a way to make things worse just like the women do. But my husband tries to calm me down too when i am upset or angry and he tries to hold me and talk to me calmly about things... Alot of times he is calmer then i am. I wish I could be more like him. I have to admit that I get upset and riled easier then what he does. I need to learn to stay calm and not get so upset or angry by things so much. God is helping me with this though.
2007-02-08 22:36:21 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because your wife or gf simply lacks an esseintial ingriedent to understanding you and your anger- i.e a Y chromosome. Women for the most part do not understand male anger and are often frightened by it. Certainly, they usually have no idea of how to calm you down. Often, they are just concerned with making you stop being angry, rather than letting you work through it. Sometimes they try and point out some logical reason why being angry is not the most constructive thing- which of course is almost guaranteed to make things worse, because often it *is* the most constructive thing you can do, to gear you up to deal with whatever it is that made you angry. If that thing is another guy, then often its the guy who can bring the most intense passion to bear on the situation that emerges victorious. Sometimes they try and tell you, "It will be all alright", which works with women, but is pointless with men, because men
know its not going to just be alright- if it was, they wouldn't be
angry in the first place, would they? Some twit has put a dent
in your car and is giving you grief about repairing it. How is
that going to resolve itself to just "be alright"?
Its not their fault, men usually have no idea how to calm women down when they are angry either- in fact, in their case they usually have no idea that women are angry in the first place and certainly they often have no idea why.
2007-02-09 00:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by losbonobo 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good question. Because they only know how to do that. They only know how to get revenge and make it worse for you. But they don't care about why you are angry or don't care to comfort you. Or, they are tired of you being angry all the time, so they lash out at you, because they are tired of it. And that's the only thing that will get your attention is by getting angry back at you.
So, if you don't want this to happen again, I would advice you not to get angry or show anger in front of her. There are other ways to deal with anger. Like take a walk around the block until you calm down. Do some exercise or ride a bike. Or, listen to some soft music to relax you. Do something about your anger or it will control you. If you think that you are out of control with the anger, do get some counseling.
Tell your mate to help you with it. She should be supportive of you and not try to make things worse for you. She needs to give you a hug or a shoulder and neck rub so you can feel relax, rather than being angry, or rathe than making you more angrier.
I would consider on getting these books called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage".
2007-02-08 22:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Us women are finicky creatures. And we think completely the opposite of you. The words coming out of her mouth, she thinks, will make it better, (talk it out, get in touch with your feelings.)
That is the last thing you want to hear, right? You'd rather go beat a video game, kick somebody's ***, go to sleep! Just remember, most of the time she really wants to help, but just screws it up royally! Cut her a little slack, when she's angry, you'll probably do something to make it worse, when you are just trying to help!
2007-02-08 22:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by It'sJustMe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not really makin it worse, we just want to find out whatz wrong especially when you shrug n say 'nothing.' the poking and prodding will make you feel angrier but itz an act of love, actually
2007-02-09 03:01:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
and if your wife/gf asks whats wrong you shrug your shoulders and say "nothing"
we cant help if we dont know whats going on in that little head of yours.
2007-02-08 22:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't allow yourself to lose control to the point of needing someone to calm you.how could someone you love above all others upset you that much?
2007-02-08 22:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by llsnwtsn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what your angry about
2007-02-08 22:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm maybe you're talking about YOUR wife? You'll have to ask HER that question.
2007-02-08 22:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would ask the same about men, men love winding women up, they know what buttons to press to hurt you but cant find the buttons to press to show they love you
2007-02-08 22:39:52 · answer #11 · answered by ♥Honesty ♥.•´ `*.¸ ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋