me and my best friend have been friends since kindergarden and we always been tight and when me and my sons father got together i always included her and always made her feel comfortable . but she by a mistake got pregnant by her brothers friend and he denied even having sex with her , then when the baby was born things between them became cool and she slowly started puting me on the back burner and i'm happy they are a family in all but i been there for her through everything and it seems like she forgot all about me and she only calls me when he is at work and that is very rare . what should i do? am i being parinoid?
2007-02-08 14:30:08 · 14 answers · asked by imbossy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Talk to them and tell them the truth
2007-02-08 14:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being paranoid. Most likely this friend just doesn't think about you very much - no offence. She's rapped up in her love, and once that falls apart she'll be back in your arms. As hard as this is, that is who she is. She is always with the person she needs at that very moment, and rarely thinks of anyone else. She isn't phony, she just doesn't understand. Frienships like this can be hard, and harder for you because you are feeling hurt and betrayed, but really this girl has no idea that you are feeling this. The best thing to do here is to except that she will always be like this and move on with things. Don't put such a high importance on your frienship. The other thing you could do is drop her, but I wouldn't, considering she probably still thinks of you in the exact same way you left off and will be confused if you do. I wish you luck! Hope that helps. By any chance is she a bit on the "blonde" side? I have a feeling I know exactly her personality.
2007-02-08 14:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be a tough time for you and your friend. Right now is a hard time for her having a new baby and an iffy relationship with her babies father. She probably does have her hands full.
But I can tell you from experience she probably really appreciates being able to call you when there is some quiet time.
This will be a busy time for her and she may not always be around for you. Just give her the space she needs and continue to be the good friend you have been.
Your friendship will be stronger for it.
In the meantime take care of yourself. This is a good time to work on getting good grades or doing well in your job. Let your friend know you will always be there for her.
2007-02-08 14:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by Stayathomemom.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that she is a phony, you've been best friends since kinder garden. I think that she's just busy with her life a baby and a husband. Things change sweat heart, that's life. She still wants you as a friend. I think that you are overreacting
2007-02-08 15:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is living with her man and she has a baby. She has responsiblities. This is reality not TV. She is calling you and is nice. You have to accept that your relationships will change. Be happy for her. She did not use you and pretend to be your friend. She had to grow up fast. She does not sound phony to me at all. Be happy that you have responsible caring friend.
2007-02-08 15:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's alright this is the way life goes we have friends, we grow up, get married, and don't get to see those friends that much, We panic b/c we think we're losing them but we're acually just living the same as they are I'm sure your friend is feeling the same way (if she is a friend) like you say
2007-02-08 14:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for a heart-to-heart talk with your best friend. Her life has changed. Maybe she is going through some things she hasn't disclosed to you yet. Good luck and don't give up on her.
2007-02-08 14:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you might hear it a lot, but give it some time. She just had a baby and they are just now warming up to eachother. Try calling her or even him and see how things go from there.
2007-02-08 14:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should really talk to her, face-to-face, not over the phone or through emails. And ask her why shes dissing you like that and let her know how awful it makes you feel. if she tries denying freezing you out like that then maybe she really isnt a true friend.
2007-02-08 15:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Diana_Is_Amazing 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as people age and begin to make a life for themselves, things sometimes get pushed back, while it makes you feel bad and deserted, i bet she's not doing this intentionally. she's probably got a lot to do these days. if you are her friend, you call her.
2007-02-08 14:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋