make new friends?

Question

I have a few close friends of mine but for the past couple of years it has seemed like we don't gel anymore. Or at least I feel like I don't fit in. But a couple months ago I started hanging out with this other girl during class and we got along right away. We have a lot of the same interests and finish each others sentences (seriously!) so i've been invited to hang out with her group at lunch; i know all the other kids and some I've been friends with for years, but just not close friends. Should I start hanging out with this new friend or stick with the old ones who i just don't feel quite happy with? And what if they ask me why I left and feel betrayed? Anyone ever been in this same rut?

Answer 1

This happened to me when I was 16, I figured out the reason I was unhappy, is well, me and my friends had kinda grown apart.
I made new friends and started hanging out with them, yeah, at first my other friends wanted to know what was up. So, I told them. I told them that even though they were still my friends, that in a lot of ways i felt we had all gone our seperate ways and told them why i had come up with that. They were still pissed but, you know what, I am glad I hung out with a different crowd, I was more happy, and excited to have friends who were into the same things I was, and these are still my friends 12 years later.
Change is a good thing sometimes. If you feel like you fit into both groups for awhile its ok to do things with both, and maybe you will be the one to bring bothe groupos together, but, if not don't worry people change and so do their friends, its nothing to sweat about. Being happy, and having fun, is.

Answer 2

Try and do both if you can but do what makes you happiest more. People change and your interests are probably changing. That doesn't make you a bad friend, you just have to get on with your life. If they dont seem to care then it doesnt matter but if you think they care then you should at least give them some of your time. If someone cares about you then they at least deserve that. Cutting things down slowly is the best way to go about it. Make sure you cover your bases so you always have friends to fall back on though.

Answer 3

I don't know how old you are, but you will learn in time that you don't have to stop hanging out with your long time friends to start hanging out with new ones. One thing I was never involved in in school was cliques, and because of it I am a stronger more independent person today. Be yourself and treat people the way that you would like them to treat you and you will be o.k. If your old (or new) friends have a problem with your decision, then you might need to re-evaluate their worth to you. But on the other hand they may be onto something.

Answer 4

oh boy yeah.
I had a friend at the beginning of the school year, she was nice. Ten she became so self concious. If they ask you anything, tell them that (the old friends) you dont fit in anymore and would like a little rest from all this stuff. If they amek you mad, ust sont talk to them or say I can't be your friend anymore, we just dont go together. You should make new friends but don't completely ignore your old ones.

Answer 5

Best advice is: Do what makes you happy. If you do not feel desirable around your current group, try to meet new people. However, don't just dump your current group; still be who you used to be...

Your new group might end up being your worst nightmare and it could be a great success. Simply socialize yourself woth others and then you will know where you comfortably fit in...

Answer 6

Just because you hang out more with a new group of friends doesn't mean you have to stop spending time with your old friends. Just start spending more time with the new friends and a little less time with the old friends.

Answer 7

i have. They called be (not to make you feel bad) Ditcher. But then they got over it and it was as if nothing had happend. But that might not be the same for you. Maybe yes, maybe no. I guess i would go to the new friends. Hang out with your old ones sometimes and your new ones too.

Answer 8

changes in people are frequent .. we all always fit in somewhere... i think sometimes we get tired and tuned into the dumb games we play to love or get along with each other because we are supposed to.... be popular??perhaps? .we have so much in common.. but we have nothing in common.. we are asked to hang out.. be part of... to be lured into feeling secure as a group...couple..or .sometimes as a individual.. best advice is to be your own person!!! learn with respect and open mindness.to accept all people no matter what the "thing " or subject ,group or others that is in mind.. love and accept yourself , friends ,people,strangers ,and family.and what else.. life ... being obsessed with whom we should participate in life with is silly.. for all life and people and individuals are learning tools..leading to the unconditional love we need to bring and practice.. don't take it personal.. take it as it is .. learn to love and accept more out of others and life's situations by knowledge.. not selfishness or bias believe it or not no-one has to really belong to any group

Answer 9

you should hang with people you feel that are more gelling with you, but then, if ever your old group asks you to hang with them, try as much as possible to say "yes"; always keep in contact via emails and phone calls.
most people get hurt when you always hang out with other people and turn down their offer to hang out with you.
And, another thing is this: because you feel that you dont fit in anymore with your old crowd, you must be very conscious of what you answer them because it might come out sarcastic for them.

Answer 10

start hanging out with the new group. you'll ge to know them in like a week. and if ur other friends ask u y u left them say becuz u have more friends and u kinda want to spend more time with them.