Testing husband's faithfullness.?

Question

Testing to see if husband will cheat. What do you think about sending a mysterious email about a sex romp? I'm not the jealous type. If he answers it, I plan on meeting him naked in a hotel room. If not ... then I know where his heart is. Is this a bad idea? I trust him and have no suspisions. I just wonder ... is he really that happy with me?

Yall are fiesty. It was just a thought. Now that I think about it.... I'd rather meet him at the door ... and thank him for all his "hard" work!
I got a great man ..... but sometimes .... I find it hard to live with myself. I wonder .... why does he put up with my bullshit? I wouldn't put up with me .... if I wan't stuck with myself. I'd leave myself in a heartbeat!
He treats me like a queen ... and I treat him like a king. But when I have a bad day.... I'm a texas tornado... not I don't take it out on him... but he is there to see me *****.

Answer 1

personally... I think it's a bad idea. Deception could lead to destruction of the relationship, no matter what he chooses.

It sounds to me -- especially since you say you trust him-- that the problem is more with your self esteem and your faith that you are all the woman he will ever want, than with his faithfulness.

Answer 2

Don't rock the boat. Many women chase off men because of all these TESTs! If you're not the jealous type, why the suspicion? I've learned in my years of marriage, that you never know a man (or woman's) heart. . .Quit wondering if he's happy with you and examine the evidence (behaviors are much harder to perpetrate; that's why the say "action speaks louder than words"). How does he make you feel? Do you feel loved, happy? Do you look forward to seeing him when he comes home? Does he repeatedly belittle you in private or public? Does he make you want to & try to be a better wife, friend, lover? Your answers to these questions don't require you to hire a PI or become the newest CSI on the block. . .But it helps you to know where you stand, what you may want to consider, what you need to change, and even what you and he need to have a discussion about.

Answer 3

First of all do not play games like this with your husband and deceive him and tempt him... He is only human you know. You are trying to set him up and this is just mean. If you cannot trust him then why in the world did you marry him in the first place. Yes this is a bad idea. You are very wrong in doing this. You are contradicting yourself on what you are saying here in one sentence you are testing him to see if he will cheat on you with the fake and deceptive you which i sick to begin with BUT in another sentence you say you have no doubts or suspicions and that you know he will never cheat and that you trust him.. This just does not make sense to me. You are sick and twisted for doing this to him and your marriage. how would you feel if he did this to you? If you really trusted him the way you say you do you would not be playing these stupid games with him and i dont feel you really love him either. You just might lose him for playing this game in the first place and remember it may turn around to bite you in the butt and you may just get burned! Think before you act or play these games is all I am saying. Would you want him to do this to you and play this game with you and your emotions? How would this make you feel if he was doing this to you? Nuff said... I am done now!

Answer 4

first of all if it really is the first time you and he have ever been examined then do not anticipate he cheated. Chlamydia is amazingly, very hardship-loose and he ought to have had it for years and not in any respect universal because he not in any respect confirmed any of the indications. For that count number you've given it to him not understanding you've been a provider. this happens to a lot of people. about 0.5 of the ladies with it flow on to make stronger pelvic inflammatory ailment because they don't understand they not in any respect educate any symptom of chlamydia so that is left untreated. adult adult males it really is someplace round 40% have it and don't understand. as far as because he pulls out it really is between the most asinine issues I have heard. Chlamydia is a bacteria not an endemic and not in any respect carried in sperm per se. it really is not all that unusual so that you'll be able to attempt unfavorable if he's effective that is probably you had a pretend effective or your chlamydia cleared up on it really is personal, which does take position now and again because the body can rid itself of bacterial infections mainly situations. or you've had it and brought a broadbased antibiotic for say UTI or different bacterial an infection like a strep throat and that killed the chlamydia bacteria. So like I reported except you both examined unfavorable before automatically (each year sorting out is counseled) you have not any way of understanding who added it to the relationship. regardless of the indisputable fact that that is counseled that you both take the treatment even regardless of the reality that you at the instantaneous are not sorting out effective right now.

Answer 5

Not the jealous type are you? Sounds like you are and that you are setting him up for failure. If he does decide to greet the invite and you show up naked what kind of message does that send? So then the next time he gets a spicy invite and he goes thinking it's you and it's not and he really cant talk his way out of it with the other chick because it's right there in front of him are you really going to blame him? Just get over your insecurities, cause he's with you right now isn't he? What more do you want?

Answer 6

A bad idea indeed. You could be playing with fire. If you did trust him and weren't jealous, this thought would have never entered your mind. Why do you need to play a game with your husband to see if he is happy with you? Maybe you should ask him and judge by his answer. I hope you reconsider this before you do it, it could backfire on you. If he does show up, what do you do, get mad, accuse him of cheating, and what is he going to think when you answer the door? You were there for someone else and he showed instead? Smarten up.

Answer 7

Wow that's so hard t answer....Mmmmmm.... I say if you trust him then I wouldn't bait him like that. It's what the meaning of trust is. That you know he would not do anything intentionally to hurt you and I hope he never does.
I do think however that you need to talk to him more and show him why he is with you....If you want to put your relationship into that type of test then I would tend to think that your looking for a way out.
I hope this helps...I wish you the best of luck either way you go.

Answer 8

Think about your idea a little more.If he were to accept the proposal and go to the motel his intentions would be to meet a woman other than his wife.When the door opened and you are standing there he is going to be very shaken.By doing this the only thing you have proved is that he will cheat if the opportunity presents itself.

Answer 9

sounds like what you really want is to spice up your love life well there are lots of real neat head games to play that are not decieveing and hurtful. try playing a game instead of pretending to be someone else
like a scavenger hunt for clues as to what hotel he can find you at and then be as sexy as you want i am sure you both would enjoy it a whole lot more...... just a thought i mean if you really trust him and just want a lil drama thats a lot better drama than starting something that could be your undoing just a thought......

Answer 10

I think this is a bad idea. I also think that you don't trust your husband enough either. You are insecure. You already know where his heart is because you married him and you found him to be trusted.

You are just trying to find some fault in your husband. All because you have no trust, which you are being childish.

The question is, what are you really up to?

Answer 11

You have no suspicions so you'd better leave well enough alone! What if he did show up? That would run the relationship into the ditch. Bad idea! You say you trust him; if so then why are you even considering this?