HPV shot????

Question

i am 14 and my mom took me to the doctor 2day to get a shot to prevent hpv and cervical cancer but i dont think i need it. i dont plan on haing sex until im married and i feel like bt getting this shot my mom is liek giving me the green light to go ahead adn have sex.i am not really comfortable talking to my mom about stuff liek this and how can i tell her that i dont think i need it. i feel liek she may think that its ok to have sex before marraige but i feel the total opppiste. what can i say to her?????????

Answer 1

I wish the shot had been available when I was 14 and that my mother had made me get it.
Like you I was going to wait to have sex until I was married, but I didn't get that choice. I was raped. That was a terrible, traumatic experience, but it was made worse when I went to get my annual pelvic exam and the pap came back abnormal with high risk HPV effects. Now I'm scared and trying to cope with the fear and betrayal from the attack along with the fear that I'm at a much higher risk for developing cervical cancer, and the treatments that the doctors want to do... I'm too young for them to be cutting out part of my reproductive system!
I respect your desire to wait until you are married, that's a choice that fewer people are making these days. By getting you this shot your mother is trying to protect you. She knows that bad things can happen, and that if your future husband has HPV you'll still be at risk even if he's the only one you're ever intimate with.
If you really are uncomfortable about getting a vaccine to prevent a virus that is transmitted by skin to skin contact (not exchange of bodily fluids) during sexual relations let your mom know. Tell her that you don't think you are in a high risk (or ANY risk) group and ask her why she thinks it's important for you to get this vaccine.

You probably won't be able to change her mind, but it will be good for you two to have that conversation.

Answer 2

This is just my opinion, and I am a mom of a 6 1/2 year old girl. I think these shots are a good idea. Do I think sex before marriage is ok? No but you will probably have sex at some point in your life and this shot will help protect for then. I know you dont want the shot, but I think your mom is just trying to do the right thing. She may or may not approve of sex before marriage but she wants to protect you as much as possible. Please be upfront with her and just ask her why she wanted you to have the shot. You should talk so that you know where she is coming from and she can see your point. Best of Luck

Answer 3

Talk to her about it because, there are other things to consider.
First of all if you use a condom then you won't get the HPV virus. HIV is much scarier than HPV. Ask her to buy you a box of condoms instead.
Second, this vaccine has not been around for that long and has only been tested for about 2 years. I would not take this vaccine for fear of it somehow having a negative affect on me down the road and think that other people should be considering that throughout history there have been many mistakes made the FDA in approving vaccines and drugs that were later found to cause health problems that far outweighed its benefits.
Finally, sex is not something that you should jump into anyway so maybe you can tell her that when you decide that you are going to have sex, that you will consider the vaccine. She can probably put a waiver on file at the doctors office so that you can go get it if or when you decide you want it.

Answer 4

Well, you've already had the shot right? It never hurts to get added protection just in case. They never had this when I was young, so you're quite fortunate. It is not a license to have sex, it's just rather gives your body more defences when the time comes for you to engage. As you get older, you may be choiced with different circumstances as to where and when you will decide to do so. HPV does not protect against AIDS, for instance. It's more directed at cervical cancer, that develops over a lifetime and increases with the more partners you've had as the years go by. If you feel uncomfortable, talking to Mom, there are good sites like Web MD that can explain things and make you understand your Mom is really about protecting your good health for a very common cancer that affects many women. I don't think she is meaning you to have sex now. This vaccine will remain with you all your life, so your Mom actually did a very intelligent thing for you. Perhaps, she could have explained it more clearly to you, but she did the right thing. I'm sure in time, we'll have more cancer vaccines out there and even one for AIDS, so this is a real advance to help women stay healthy all their lives. You may be lucky enough to find the right guy and marry one and stay with him forever, but you might not. In that case, one day you may have to be involved with several men, till you find the right one. This protection is with you a lifetime and there can be a lot of changes for all of us as the years go by! You have a very smart Mom! Be happy for that!

Answer 5

You can start by telling her that you want to talk to her about an uncomfortable subject with her. Tell her your plans and your thoughts and feelings about it. She sees it on the commercials and probably hears about it and wants to protect you. She may not necessarily think you are going to start having sex, but she knows that you will be protected if you ever do have sex down the road at whatever age you have it. My gynecologist told me that 93% of women have it. I know men who have it too. I have HPV, but I have never had the warts and would have never known it had I not been to the doctor and gotten a pap smear. I applaud you for your strength and courage. I too thought I would never have sex before marriage, but that right was taken away from me when I was raped. I was also molested when I was a little girl. After that, down the road, I decided to have sex to see what it really felt like. It was a bad decision. I had a boyfriend that had it. After 10 years of bad papsmears, I finally have had 2 normal ones. I wish they had the shot back then. It doesn't take away the bad decision I made. I didn't know my boyfriend had it. Your future husband may be a carrier of it and he may not know. My sister always swore she wouldn't have sex before marriage and now her child is almost 10. As long as you can stick to your guns and know you will not falter, go for it. Better safe than sorry is what I say.

I still would talk to your mother and tell her how you feel even though you feel uncomfortable. It doesn't mean she thinks you are going to have sex or are having those plans. Hugs to you and my prayer for you is to stay strong and keep your faith.

Answer 6

Even if you are not planning on having sex the HPV shot Gardisil is a very good decision even if you want to wait until your married. And you husband could still be a carrier of the HPV virus and you might not even know, so just follows your moms advice. I am 26 and I am getting it next month. Cervical cancer is on the rise, it won't hurt you to get it anyways. Check out the website if you have more questions.

Answer 7

I"m getting this shot too. It doesn't make you any different than anybody else and you can still make your own decisions about your sex life and whether to wait or not. Remember, this shot is not birth control nor is it protection from STD's. But why not try something that could limit your chance of getting cervical cancer? Sounds like a great opportunity to me.

Answer 8

It would be good to have an open conversation about what you believe anyway, but as far as the shot goes, she's just trying to protect you in the future. Soon they're going to have baby girls getting the vaccine with their other childhood vaccines.

Plus, you don't know how your feeling will change as you grow up. You may not feel the same at age 20 when you have a steady boyfriend as you do now.
Talk to your mom, but it's probably a good idea to get the shot anyway.

Answer 9

This shot should have nothing to do with your decision to have sex before marriage. You get shots when you are 2 years old to prevent a whole host of illnesses. That doesn't mean your parents totally sanction you going out and doing all sorts of unclean and dangerous activities that place you in harms way, right? Just because your mom makes you get a tetnus shot does NOT mean she is telling you it is cool to go play around with rusty nails. The HPV vaccine does NOT prevent you from getting pregent or getting AIDS, herpes, etc. If your mom has a brain cell in her head, she probably realizes that. I can't imagine that your mom wants you to go fool around. If she does, who cares? YOU are in charge of YOUR body and your decisions. If anyone (your parents included) are pressuring you to have sex, that is coercion, sexual harassment, or possibly rape (depending on how far they take it). If you want to wait, you can. Nothing is preventing that, including this shot. The shot is just an added protection that hopefully will last up to even when you ARE married. So why are you trippin'?

Answer 10

alrighty. first of all its YOUR body and only YOU can decide what gets put into it. if you dont make those decisions yet then we get another problem here. from what it seems, you dont want to get the shot...then dont! i dont think they are going to hold you down and stick you with the needle, and if you ened up in the doctord office walk home. But you can still get the shot and not have sex. then you wont have to get it later when you DO decide to have sex. im not being negative here but its going to be very unlikely you find a guy who is a virgin by the time you get married.So you can still get the shot and wait. it will just be protection later, and hey look at this part. no painful cancer! then you'll have to get LOTS of shots. but if you still dont want this shot and you feel very strongly about it, then dont get it. your body and your only.