About two years ago, my cousin's girlfriend, had a baby still born and they named her Madison Jo. My husband and I are expecting our first baby in march, and we planned on naming her Maddyson Rain. Noone in my family had a problem with this, until recently the sister of my cousin, told me that I was being sick and wrong to even consider naming my baby Maddyson after her brother was going to name his baby that. Now, we rarely see this cousin, and had never even met the woman who carried his baby. Are my husband and I being rude by naming our baby the same name?
2007-02-08 13:59:53 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
If you rarely see them and aren't close to them then I think it is ok to go ahead and name your baby maddyson...at least it is spelled different!!!
Congratulations on the baby! They are wonderful
2007-02-08 14:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a touchy subject...is this your first cousin? If so, that means they would have had the same grandparents?
Obviously someone in your family is talking about the baby name or your other cousin wouldn't have mentioned it, I don't think. If you know that it might cause hard feelings why don't you try to find another name that you love as much.
They did name the baby and you all did know the name so it isn't like they just said, "Oh, well we called our little baby that" out of the blue...
How about:
Addyson Rayne? It is just as cute.
Madalyn Rayne? Same nickname!
Madaleine Rayne? Adorable too!
Maddy Rayne? Just the nickname as her name is nice.
Madalena Rayne? Much more unique
Also names that are along the same lines as Maddyson...
Mackenzie Rayne?
Mckenna Rayne?
Isabella Rayne?
Hannah Rayne?
Montana Rayne?
Peyton Rayne?
Or,
Riley Madison?
Hailey Rayne?
Sierra Rayne?
Sienna Madison?
Skyler Rayne?
Good Luck! SD
2007-02-09 11:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say that nobody in your family had a problem with this, do you mean you actually sat down and asked if it would bother them for you to use that name considering what happened to your cousin? It could be that your cousin's sister is voicing something that nobody else in the family felt comfortable bringing up. In most cases I would tell people to name their kid whatever they want, but this really is a very sensitive situation. Even if you don't see your cousin very much, it would be sad if the rest of your family thought of your cousin's tragedy every time they looked at your little girl or mentioned her very similar name. You should talk to your cousin and see what he thinks. If nothing else, having your family know he's okay with you using it might ease tensions. Have you considered any similar names, like Maddelyn?
2007-02-09 01:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by Krista D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is always hard when other people start to give their opinions and judgments on your choice of baby names. It is a big responsibility naming a little person (and finding a name both parents love!), without being landed with other people's "stuff". Name your baby what you want, and you don't have to discuss it further with your family. One question: why the unusual spelling of Madison? If that is to appease your family? Your baby is a whole new person, so frankly, I don't see why you have to go for an unusual spelling (if that is why you are spelling the name as you are).
All the best - enjoy your little daughter.
2007-02-08 14:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does your cousin feel about it? I would ask your cousin if it bothers him. If it doesn't bother him, then I would go ahead and name her Maddyson. Then if his sister gets mad and mentions it again, you can tell her that you asked him and since HE is fine with it, you see nothing wrong with naming your baby that. After all, if it doesn't bother your cousin, then why should it anyone else? Good luck and I wish the best for you, your husband, and your soon-to-be-born baby girl!
2007-02-08 14:06:12 · answer #5 · answered by jlg_jdf 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If its something you have to think about, then the answer is probably no. I do not personally think it is a good idea, because they have and will always grieve for that baby Maddison. It's wrong to know that pain, and remind them of it. It will kind of reinforce, now that the name is taken, that the still born baby will NEVER be theres. It's kinda like taking hope.
If you are really set on Madison why dont you make it the babies middle name and still talk to your cousins about it. You know they are in pain, be considerate. What would you want them to do for you?
2007-02-12 10:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your cousin and see how he feels about it. If it's ok with him, then go for it.
But, if he isn't ok with it, please don't use it. Luckily, I found out before picking out a name for my first baby that I could not use the name Travis (it was on my possible list) because my husband's aunt had a still born that she named Travis. I would NEVER use that name, because of it. This happened over 20 years ago and nobody ever talked about it. I'm glad I found out, because I would have hated to be that insensitive.
2007-02-08 15:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by Stacy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could use the name Maddyson as middle name, so nobody will feel it's rude.
2007-02-08 21:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by tokala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you never met the lady that was pregnant with the baby then don't worry about it. Its good that you spelt it differently. but if it's going to cause a rift in the family then I'm sure that the little baby inside your tummy would prefer another name. nothing is worth family break ups.
2007-02-08 19:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by Kellie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk this over with your hubby and see how you both feel about it. If either one of you the name doesn't sit well in your heart for that reason, then pick out a different name. Listen to what that still small voice within tells you both.
2007-02-08 17:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋