Mindy
Dilemma! help please...?
So there is this guy that really likes me. He does exactly what he says hes going to do, like, i'll call you tonight, and he calls me, and when we do, do something he leaves me a message after the fact telling me he had a great time. but he makes racial comments, doesn't like the same music, and he calls himself a redneck, which is completely opposite from me. He does make me laught but..... Then there is this other guy. He seems really sweet, i haven't spent a lot of time with him, he lives farther away. like two hours, which isn't a big deal. I talk to him everyday online or the phone, but the doctor says he is sick. He has a problem with his spine and he won't live over 35 years old. and he has done pot.. but he has been asked to quit by his doctor, smoking and pot, which he has done. He is sort of like me, he's nice, shy, quiet, laid back. He brings out the kid in me, which i like. I'm not sure what one to choose. They both have cons, and pros. Which one will be the best person?
2007-02-08 13:52:36 · 8 answers · asked by Skye 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like neither of them are very good choices. If I were you, I would just hold out. You really have to be compatible on all levels and be able to respect eachother.
With Redneck Guy, it sounds like he has issues respecting other people, and your own gut is telling you that you just don't mesh. it sounds like you don't have enough compatabilities to make it through the honeymoon stage if you were to furthur your relationship.
With Sick Guy, it sounds like you are having issues with his morality (hense the drug use) and the fact that he might be dying before you can have children. Not to say that you should ignore the sick, but if he won't quite smoking at the request of his doctor, then I'm guessing that he'll treat you about as well as he treats his body.
Read this book "will our love last":
http://www.amazon.com/Will-Our-Love-Last-Couples/dp/0684864924
Every girl should read this book, especially before launching into a new relationship. Please do, it's amazing. Good luck
2007-02-08 14:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by lissa2882 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mindy,
I'm sorry but you're being played, this guy is probably married and he definitely has issues with being prejudice. What are you thinking? I would say all of the signs point to tell you this is no good and you insist on pursuing because you think he's a nice guy. Give me a break! Do you really think so? Read what you wrote again and stop and mull it over (for just a minute). It's all wrong (you said it yourself he's the complete opposite of you)!
2007-02-08 22:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are faced with a really hard choice. However, since no one on Yahoo! answers knows excactly what your going through, they cannot help you. You do not need to choose right away. Wait...spend a little time with each guy. Perhaps ull figure out that your true calling is with somone totally different. You do not need to choose now, no pressure. Remember though, its your choice.
2007-02-08 22:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by plopple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The second one is the better of the two. But if it were me personally i would not want to be with either of them and i would keep looking to see who is out there and available. But the choice is yours and no one can make that for you. I wish you the best with what you choose to do. Good luck.
2007-02-08 21:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make it an either , or situation.Go out with one of them and see how it goes.A week later go out with the other and compare.At least this way you can see how each one acts and see if you like one more than the other.If you are just dating and not looking for a husband then enjoy the attention for awhile.
2007-02-08 22:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mindy the best person for you is you, you need to find the right guy and those two aren't it, you need to find the man that's make you laugh and feel good about yourself when your around him and speak his name, keep look you sound like a great person, thier has to be more guys in your town date a few more to help find the right guy for you.
Good luck and keep on smiling.
2007-02-08 22:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by choiceav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your heart....unfortunately, its not like going to the deli where you can have a little of this and a little of that.... if you are still unsure...neither is right. Cause once you get the love bug....there is no stopping it....thats why love is blind...lol. I know you want to make a good decision.....the truth is, you need to make good decisions while you choose your friends and go on dates.... but love, love is blind. sounds like you don't really love either one of these guys.... dont settle. They sound like good friends....end of story.
2007-02-08 22:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to come down to either of them. Racial slurs/comments is a NO Brainer in my book.....the other guy, your setting yourself up for heartache....I dont' know how old you are but keep your options open.
2007-02-08 22:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋