About two years ago, my cousin's girlfriend, had a baby still born and they named her Madison Jo. My husband and I are expecting our first baby in march, and we planned on naming her Maddyson Rain. Noone in my family had a problem with this, until recently the sister of my cousin, told me that I was being sick and wrong to even consider naming my baby Maddyson after her brother was going to name his baby that. Now, we rarely see this cousin, and had never even met the woman who carried his baby. Are my husband and I being rude by naming our baby the same name?
2007-02-08 13:49:34 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You can name your baby whatever you want. Especially since you don't see this cousin often. As long as it doesn't bother you, it shouldn't bother anyone else.
2007-02-08 13:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by true blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - since you aren't close to your cousin then no i don't think you are being rude. But you should understand where your cousin's sister is coming from - the death of her brothers baby would have affected her so she is bound to be sensitive to it - not saying she is right, but i do think she is entitled to be a bit defensive.
BUT you should name your baby Maddyson Rain if you want - i think its a beautiful name!
2007-02-08 21:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by Smiley One 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are a couple of realities to this situation that your cousins need to realize. The need to realize that you are not that close to your cousin and that although empathize with him and his gf, their tragedy had nothing to do with your decision... and also, Maddison and all of it's forms is an extremely popular name right now and there will be many Maddisons in the world.
I do not think you are rude and I think you are very considerate for thinking of them at all.
Congratulations!
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Okay, to all you haters - I have a traditional name with a very untraditional spelling. It's not at all a problem for me - no one ever gets it wrong on important paper work and when it's casually misspelled, it's not a big deal - but it's such a delight when someone goes "Oh! That's so cute!" I just love it... it really makes me feel unique!
And to be fair, I know plenty of people with pretty common names and their names are frequently misspelled, too... so, just stick to the question asked!
Lady Trinity, are you ALWAYS such a narrow minded witch?? Accosting a pregnant woman is uncalled for...
2007-02-08 22:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by Tiff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it sounds like you barely knew this woman. And I think the name Maddyson is a beautiful name I actually want to name my dtr that when i have kids... but i dont think its sick and wrong.
2007-02-08 21:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by fuzzy_peach_15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just have to agree wtih Daffodil. It is not rude to name your baby after a distant relatives baby that very sadly died. BUT, it is worse than rude to make your poor child go thru life with a misspelled name. All her life that poor child will have to correct the spelling of her name on everything that ever happens. Not just in kindergarten and all thru elementary school but on their drivers license, everytime they take a college course, everytime they do anything they will have to correct people and then tell them to spell their name WRONG. Why on earth would you deliberately do that to an innocent little child? It is not cute, it is not original, it is just plain MISSPELLED!! Why???? How would you like it if YOUR name was misspelled? According to the rules which govern the English language (even in America) that name would be pronounced "Maddy-son". It would not even be appropriately spelled in the way you want it pronounced. Why do people think that they can make up their own rules when it comes to names? It is not funny and it is not a joke. Your poor child has to go thru life with your idea of what would be clever. It is just plain mean to do to a little kid.
*Oh, and to "Tiff", I am a witch but have never been accused of being a narrow minded one. I do however, not tolerate stupidity that is potentially cruel to a child. Being pregnant is not a license to be ignorant. Sorry.*
2007-02-08 22:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Trinity 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow. People, even your family, will say anything!! Don't they know that you're pregnant and probably extra concerned about everything already? If the name didn't occur to you because of the other child and you chose it on your own, then it's your baby's name, not his. It's a beautiful name, too, by the way!
2007-02-08 21:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ash 7828 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all. my husband had a cousin that died just a year ago, named bryan. b4 we knew what we were having, bryan was the first boys name we had picked out, and we werent going to spell it any differently. we're having a girl, but i know if we ever have a boy, his name will be bryan. i dont think you guys are being rude at all. its your baby, and thats one of the joys, is getting to pick the name and all that. so good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and God bless!
2007-02-09 01:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what i have three boys named after every one from cole younger to me... its your child name it what you want,,you probably don't like that cousins sister anyway,stay firm its your child,, maddyson rain is a beautifully name....,con grates on the baby..
2007-02-08 21:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by David M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to give a child a name that is spelled incorrectly? Although you can name him/her what you like, at least give them a fair chance in life with a normal name. Are you being rude? No, but your child will have to carry a misspelled name the rest oh their life!
2007-02-08 21:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by daffodil 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, it is YOUR baby and you can name her whatever you want. It does not matter if you have 10 relatives who have named their kids the same name, but that would be kinda confusing. Who cares though? It is your baby and you are allowed to do what you want.
2007-02-08 21:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋