I'm short tempered, but I'm ok with my friends. What I don't understand is that I'm so much easier to get angry and impatient with people who are really close to me, like my parents and my boyfriend, even though I love them more than anybody else.
2007-02-08 13:36:30 · 8 answers · asked by Nobody Cared 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The people we love the most are the easiest targets because nine times out of ten, they love us too. That means, usually, that when we vent at them or act out, they are not going to fip us the bird or smack us.
Also, I have come to understand that lashing out at the people who love us is downright cowardly. We sometimes treat the people who love us the most worse than we do those who don't care at all because we know that they're going to take it.
The most loving thing that we can do to maintain important relationships is to seek counseling.
Sometimes, we lose the people we love the most because we mistreat them. STOP IT! In the end it may cost more than you're willing to pay.They may just say, that's enough! I cannot continue to take this abuse.
2007-02-08 13:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think Heads Up! was right, it is easier to get angry with the people you love and trust because you know they will love you just the same. You trust them to be there for you no matter what. (Not that you don't trust your friends, but you are not as close to them.)
2007-02-08 13:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by infinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because you've got higher expectations towards people whom you're really close with.Furthermore, we tend to let our guards down, stripped out of our fronts and pretenses when we're with people whom we're extremly comfortable with - that means showing our angry/ugly sides too cause we know that they'll still accept us no matter what and we won't be judged.
2007-02-08 18:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by astella_interrupted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of the saying, "We lash out at the ones closest to us"?
I don't care who you are, you are more apt to start a fight with your family than you are with your friends. You will always have your family, you don't know where that line is drawn with your friends.
If you lash out at your friends they just might tell you where to go.
When you lash out at your family they might get hurt, but family always sticks together, thick and thin.
2007-02-08 14:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
familiarity breeds contempt=all of these friends and family are vying for your time and they all want you to be manipulated with out contending for your own rights
2007-02-08 14:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have as much invested emotionally in your friends as you do your family and boyfriend.
2007-02-08 13:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider the statement: "I've had enough and never want to see you again!" Who would it be worse to hear from?
2007-02-08 13:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by the_republican_therapist 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You feel they will forgive you , you should stop it though their patience will run out.
2007-02-08 13:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋