Just curious... when is everyone else sure?

Question

When and how is everyone else sure they've found the right person for them? Is it soon, like when you've just met them or after you've been with them for a while ?

Answer 1

I knew after one month. Here is how and why I knew:
1. He supported and love the worst thigsn about me (smoking, occasional gambling, talking to much) and still loved me dearly.
2. I was very accepting of his "sins" such as playing video games too much.

What I am trying to say is that as soon as you accept the other person entirely and can argue with them without being low and hurtful, they are likely to be the one.

Sometimes it takes a month (like in my case) and sometimes it takes years.

All in all, don't rush. You need to make sure you agree on finance, sex, social life, and again, you need to be able to argue and fight fairly.

Answer 2

My Fiance and I met back in Jounior High. We went through High School as well. Sometimes were partners in some classes.

I loved him from the second I met him. Never did anything about.
10 years later I find him on classmates.com and I'm off to New York to met him again. Then when we AGAIN. It was love at first site. We were engaged 6 months later.

If it was meant to be it will happen. Sometimes you just need to give fate a little push and do something with the opportunity you have.

Godspeed.

Answer 3

Hi Steve, I'm sure you will get many different answers to this question, however, I have researched the most consistent way of finding Mr. / Miss right is as follows:
1) you meet someone.. always physical attraction at first.
2) you spend time together getting to know one another.
- Looking for compatibalities and incompatibalities.
3) if it's good so far, you continue step 2.. that is spending time together, getting to know one another more and more...
- with this comes trust.. you start trusting more and more.. the trust I refer to here is of/with your emotions.
4) As time moves on it either gets better and better or somewhere along the journey it takes a turn that doesn't work anymore... So, you either continue or part...
- Using this method, you eventually find a person that you just want to be with the rest of your life... It may be the first one you meet, or it may be the 1,000th.. you just never know until you find him/her.
So, there you have it.

Answer 4

Do you both feel totally comfortable with each other?
Do you both have the same morals & values?
Do you laugh together?
Does your heart skip a beat when he walks into a room?
Can you talk about anything & everything?
Are you both #1 to each other (not counting children)?
Are you there for each other through the bad times as well as the good?
Are you sexually compatible?
Can you be yourself around him?
Do you feel the need to keep secrets from each other?
Are either of you abusive physically or mentally?
Are you only with this person because you think he's the last man on earth or because you dont want to be alone?
Just some questions to ask yourself & be completely honest.

Answer 5

This all depends on the relationship and the people in it. I knew within a month or so of knowing him and he felt the same way. Sometimes it takes longer to know for sure though... We both knew about the same time frame though and that is how we knew it was right:) Almost nine years later we feel the same way too! Has not changed at all. You just know when the person is the right one trust me!

Answer 6

I met my husband online..He really liked an answer i had put on a message board, so he emailed me...We emailed back and forth for a few months..He was married at the time and i was in a relationship...Both of which were terrible...He and I were both miserable and i guess we sorta vented to each other...As time went by, he finally divorced and I finally got rid of my b/f...
I told my girls(who were 16 and 14 at the time) that this was the man I was gonna marry...Something just clicked with us from the first time we emailed...we chatted and talked on the phone for 2 years before finally meeting...He was in Texas and I in NC...He paid for my trip to Texas where he asked me to marry him...I of course said yes and then 2 months later, we were married...
We just knew that we were right for each other from the start even though we had never actually met in person...so sometimes its not love at first site but love at first chat!..lol
Worked for us anyway...and still is. :o)

Answer 7

It depends on the individual. There are people (like my sister) who see someone for the first time, and never even speak to them and "know" they are going to marry that person and be happy forever. (she was wrong quite a few times).
Then, there's others who let things go slower and eventually realize that the person they're with is their soul mate and they don't want anyone else.

Answer 8

Well it all depends on what type of person you are, and your partner or whatever, for instance people love different, in many different ways their are diffferent types of love languages, moreover thats why some people relationships dont last, because they speak and different love languages, other than their partner. lyke feelings, ways to express yourself and knowing how to open up to people being true to yourself is what I lyke to call it. because when a person is real with their self, chances are they will be real with the next person.(speaking on those who kno what they want) Majority of people in relationships want people to show, better then they can tell, talk is cheap! but when u show its real it means something to that person, u understand where I am coming from? Words can only say, or mean so much. situations are different for people.

Answer 9

I have asked myself this same question many times! I mean even if i do feel its right... how do i know? what if im mistaken? what if i let him go by without ever knowing? or what if i am mistaken and think i have found the one when he really isnt? there is never a sure answer. so it makes it scary. I guess you will just feel it and know ur ready with that one person.

Answer 10

it depends...for some they will tell you it was love at first sight at the other end there are those who are still unsure after decades, living together, children...I would recommend you take atleast a full year and see how the two of you react to all different kinds of situations including stressful and even sad times...good luck!