I am taking a class with some people and a few of them that are older tried to befriend me, which I didn't mind. But lately, a few incidences occurred that bothered me:
1. One guy is starting to expect that I will share my homework with him-he never does any of his homework right. It bothers me to find him looking over my shoulder in class to see what I did and he expects to share homework. I don't want to be mean, but today it just irritated me. We sit next to each other because they save me a seat. I don't want to ruin relationships with my classmates. Plus, he is veryyyyyy nice.
2. Another one-a guy-started sitting really close to me during class and this bothered me a lot. I felt like he was feeling too comfortable. So I spoke up as if I were joking and said, "heyyy duddddde are you taking over my deskkkk" as if i were joking. He got what I was really trying to say but now he is acting a bit cold.
So why am I feeling suffocated? Am I the problem, or is it them???
2007-02-08 13:26:31 · 4 answers · asked by smileygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If these are the only two examples, I'd say no, it's not you, but I get the feeling you have feelings like this A LOT. You may have a social anxiety disorder, maybe only mild. I'd look google that online, then maybe talk to your doc, maybe a prescription will help.
2007-02-09 12:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by badbadboy6979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal to feel suffocated especially when you see the same people on regular basis. You are definitely not the problem. I had a similar experience and I think it might help you to stand up for yourself just a little bit more. It sounds like these guys are taking a little bit advantage of you. You might hurt some people's feelings but usually they get over it. Especially guys. They tend not to hold a grudge for very long and if they do maybe they aren't such great friends afterall. You don't have to tell them to leave you alone or anything harsh like that, but find a nice excuse to use. That was good what you said to that guy about taking over your desk. That's all you need to do and don't read into how he is acting. He shouldn't feel so comfortable getting so close to you especially since it makes you feel uncomfortable.
2007-02-15 23:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by a280baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so these guys are "befriending" you because you are younger and they are trying to take advantage of you. They want to use you for your homework.
2007-02-16 08:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that, since they are older, they should understand where you are coming from, let them know how you feel. Tell them how you appreciate their friendship, but that they are smothering you, don't let it continue, get out while you still can see daylight. Believe me.
2007-02-16 06:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋