First and foremost: I have three children, and have gone through 4 pregnancies. I know what it is like to have children, lose children, and work during it.
So, my question: She is not doing her job. She has forgotten some critical things . . .(I work for a surgeon), and every time I bring it up, or remind her what to do, she throws me this attitude like "you just don't understand what it's like to be pregnant" at which I cringe. She says the word CRAP to our patients. I would love to let her go, but I feel bad because she is due in May and no one will hire her. She cries a lot - at work . . .and I'm losing my patience. Any suggestions?
2007-02-08 13:26:27 · 11 answers · asked by Who Knew! 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you are in the right here. just because you are pregnant, it is no excuse to miss things that could be critical and be unprofessional. i'd talk to her about it. she needs to control herself.
2007-02-08 13:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can sit her down and talk to her about her behavior, but odds are she's just going to take it personally.
We all get forgetful and emotional during pregnancy, but I think for the most part many first-time mommies at least try to maintain a level of professionalism in the workplace. You've been there: we're uncomfortable, we're grumpy, and we want the world to know about it! However, there is a place to draw a line.
If she's not doing her job, she needs to go. Maybe it's more important for her to concentrate on her little arrival and less on work. And there are employers who will hire her even though she is pregnant. I've seen it happen more than once. Pregnancy isn't a death sentence, and eventually they do have to come back to work. Employers don't see a pregnant woman as a flight risk like they did in our parents' generation. It's a completely different world.
2007-02-08 21:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by Luann 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being pregnant does not increase a person's need to use profanity or near profanity in the work place. I am 6 months with my first and while I am forgetful, I have taken extra steps to avoid forgetting crucial things (I have sticky notes all over my desk!) and have never used such language in a professional setting. I think you need to warn her about that, since it is completely unacceptable, whether or not one is pregnant. I understand that she is hormonal, so you must talk to her calmly and suggest ways to improve her behavior. If this has been done, and she has been warned and understands the situation completely, then you are are in the right to let her go. While it sounds cruel, it is not your place to worry about whether or not she gets another job. You are doing enough by accepting this behavior thus far.
2007-02-08 22:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by keonli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may need to take her leave early. If she refuses than she needs to be suspended. I understand what it is like, I am pregnant with # 3 and I am also a wife, 911 dispatcher, EMT and a fireman. Just because you are pregnant does not mean that lives don't hang in the balance. For some one who has chosen her career and life to help others she is awful self centered.
2007-02-08 21:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by IMBOSSY LT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her forgetfulness is common in pregnancy and is more pronounced in some people. She should not be saying "crap" and should be able to somewhat control her emotions at work. I think you should write her up or give her a warning.
2007-02-08 21:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hold on until she goes on maternity leave, it won't be too much longer. And while FMLA and all that stuff won't let you let her go while that's going on, you can do some pretty creative things with her existing job. Maybe a transfer, or something?
2007-02-08 21:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by susiemama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are going to let her go, start documenting everything in case you get a lawsuit on your hands. write down the exact dates, times and exactly what happened. Also, talk to the surgeon as well.
2007-02-08 21:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I DONT THINK YOU SHOULD LET HER GO, SHE'S PREGNANT AND LIKE YOU SAID NO ONE WILL HIRE HER. SAYING CRAP TO PATIENTS IS WRONG, YOU SHOULD GIVE HER A WARNING AND IF THAT DOES NOT WORK THAN I GUESS FIRE HER. GOOD LUCK AND TELL HER CONGRATS!
2007-02-08 22:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by she2cute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to grow up and stop using pregnancy as an excuse
but say it in a nice way or she may yell at you
LOL
2007-02-08 21:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by Tom S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should suggest an early leave, and tell her the words she uses will not be tolerated
2007-02-08 21:30:57 · answer #10 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋