How should I tell my mom I'm pregnant by a 17-year-old?

Question

Okay I just turned 15 last month and I'm already a month and a week pregnant.And like my parents don't know I have a boyfriend and I can't have one until I'm 18. My parents are divorced and I'm afraid that the're gonna blame each other about this should I runaway or should i tell them plase help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

First, ask yourself, why are you an idiot?

second, your mom's gonna know one way or another. Unless you abort, but you will regret it!

End result, if you can't handle the baby, set her/he up for adoption.

And if you run away, where are you going to go? Think!

Answer 2

Sweetie, as a mom, I'd rather my daughter come to me and be straight and honest with me. Yes, I'd be upset, but I wouldn't ever stop loving her and she'll never stop being my daughter.

As for the baby, you need to tell them. You're going to need to see a doctor, soon. If you feel like you can't keep the baby, or your mom doesn't think she can help you give that child whatever he/she needs, consider adoption. There are thousands of couples out there who can't have kids and deserve them.

Your boyfriend should stand by you. If he cares for you, he will. I would tell your parents alone, then arrange a time for both families to sit down together, no matter how hard it might be for your parents to be in the same room. Then, both you and your boyfriend should act like adults and try to talk about what options are open to you and your baby. Actually, do that BEFORE the family get- together. That way, you will know what each other wants and needs.

I hope everything works out for you, hon!

Answer 3

You should not run away as you're trying to run away from yourself and you really can't! If you decide you want to keep the baby, the truth will have to come out sooner or later, won't it? You should get yourself to a doctor fast, if you think you cannot care for this child. Either you give birth and give it up for adoption or decide to terminate. You are very young and your boyfriend is too young too, to be parents yet. I know it's too late to tell you to practice birth control but you must face this now! And there is help for girls in your situation. Find a clinic in your area that can help you now, and fast, to help you decide what you can do about this. You can do this on your own and you must. You got pregnant without telling your parents and you're going to be a parent real soon, if you don't figure out what to do now! You don't always need your parents' permission when you're already so far gone! But don't leave it up in the air because one day you will be holding that baby and I don't think it's very probable that your young boyfriend wants to be a daddy just yet! You must take the responsibility to solve your problem before it's too late! It will affect you for the rest of your life! Please search for medical help fast! If you're truly scared, tell them! I'm sure they'll want to help you! And don't let them blame each other,just tell them it's different now than when they were young and you did not realize how easy it was to get pregnant! We are all human, but hurry, and tell someone! Time is running out in case you want to end it! And time waits for no one! Run for help, but don't run away, that's no solution! Please find real help right away for everyone's sakes!

Answer 4

Wow. This is definately a difficult situation for you, but don't worry your parents will help you!! The hardest part is going to be telling them. I'd tell each of them you need to talk to them both together. Set up a date and time for all of you to sit and talk. This way they'll know something is going on and it may help dull the shock...

Then just spill it. Don't hide or run away it won't help the situation. Regardless if you parents are divorced or not they will have a hard time dealing. Even if they were married they'd go through the same emotions...don't beat yourself up.

Life's best teacher are our mistakes.

Good Luck, you and your parents will all be fine :))

Answer 5

Sweetheart, you need to tell your parents. I would sugest you try to tell them at the same time. You need to prepare yourself for what they say and reilize that they are speaking out of pain. If you are going to be a mother soon you need to learn to do these hard things now. What about the father is he going to help you. Speaking as a mother of two my youngest being 6 months, babies are cute and lovable but they are alot of work. If you know anyone with a baby you may want to ask if you can watch the child so you can see what it is like to have no life of your own. and remember however this child is you will have to deal with your baby 24 hours a day 7 days a week. and they do cry.

Answer 6

Just tell them.They are going to blame each other.But that will stop after a while.I found out that i was pregnant when I was 15 and my boyfriend was 17.It wont be that bad they get over it after a while.Dont runaway from your problems.In the end it will all work out..My now husband then my boyfriend have been together for 12yrs now and we have 3 wonderful childern.

Answer 7

Telling them will be difficult, but it has to be done. It is best to just tell them and get it over with. They will be upset and they may blame each other, but they will get over it. You can't run away, that will do nobody any good...not you, your baby or your parents (and then they may blame each other for that too). You need their support right now...physical, emotional and financial. Don't make things worse by adding another poorly thought out action on top of the situation.

Answer 8

no matter what, you have to tell them. its not something that you can hide. running away will only make things worse for your situation. that could get you in trouble with the cops. just stay home and let whoever you live with know that your pregnant. they'll be pretty mad/upset/sad at first, but over whatever amount of time they need to get over it, they will. it took my parents a month or 2 to get used to the fact that i was pregnant ( i had just turned 17 less than a month b4) and had decided to keep the baby. im now married to the father *i had been with him for 3 years and we were going to get married next year anyways* and we're having a baby girl in almost 8 weeks. so, you do have to tell them, and you always have your bf's family to turn to if things get too rough with yours. Good luck.

Answer 9

OK, try not to listen to all the negativity that people are throwing your way. We are human beings and are bound to make mistakes and do things that we might not be proud of. But that's life and you have to learn to deal with all the pitfalls and hardships that come your way.
My advice to you is to bring you parents together and tell them. Yes I know it's easier said than done. But trust me, you will feel so much better after you talk to them. Yes they might get mad at you or at each other but because they both love you very much, they will understand and support you. They will help you come up with the right decision, whether it's abortion or carrying the baby to term. I personally am against abortion because I believe that every child deserves a chance at life. But ultimately, that should be your decision. Also, talk to your boyfriend and make sure he knows. Talk with him and his parents and make sure all of you will participate in the decision-making process.
But start off by talking to your parents. It might be the hardest thing you'll have to do, but when you do it, you will feel so much stronger and more confident. Running away from your problems is a sign of weakness and won't make things better.
Hope everything works out for you and your unborn child!

Answer 10

You are grown up enough to have sex but you arent grown up enough to tell your parents your pregnant? Do you honestly think running away is a good option? Right there you arent thinking of your child? How can a pregnant 15 year old sourvive on her own? Child you need your parents, maybe next time youll keep your legs shut and leave the adult things to the adults, I dont mean to be cruel but Im so tired of young teens thinking its cool to have sex and know what could possibly happen so they have it anyways and oops theres now a baby involved and then ya'll freak out about telling mommy and daddy. My advice if your going to do adult things act like an adult, you have just passed up your teen years Welcome to adulthood!!!! Good luck to you

Answer 11

Funny how the mistakes we make in our lives can help others with theirs. i was pregnant at 16. i told my mom which did not go over well at all, to say the least. i ended up running away. That's was even worse. I dont know you or your parents, but they will understandably be upset. expect them to overreact. you need to let them know. No parent will be happy to hear that their 15 yr old is pregnant and even more upset you you want to keep the baby. Looking back, i realize that i shouldn't have run away. Whatever happens try not to get angry with them for how they react. For some reason i want to help you so if you want it, e-mail me and we can talk. [e-mail]