Well...I have a close friend that I treasure and she's bi. I personally have never been with another woman but have thought of it and fantasized about it. I've brushed off her "passes" and asked her to stop and now we're to the point where she doesn't do it anymore and we're still excellent friends. Then she got close to another girl we know and long story short...that girl spent an intimate night with my friend which was her "first time". My friend told me what happened just like two friends sharing stories and I immediately became sad and disappointed.
I've thought of "experimenting" with my friend, but because of my shy and sexually timid nature dealing with the "unknown", I haven't. Now I know she's shared with this other girl and it's almost like I'm heartbroken. I don't know what to think of my reaction. It's almost like I feel like I've lost my chance of sharing something that would be special for me with this person I treasure and call my friend.
2007-02-08 13:05:50 · 5 answers · asked by G&T 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
sounds like deep down, you have biseuxal or lesbian feelings for her, and you feel a little jealous that someone else got to be her first and not you.. i think your feelings are natural.
do you think your friend only hooked up with this girl for a casual experiment? or are they like dating now? if it was just an experiment, then tell your friend that you want to try things with her too.. tell her you have feelings for her and want to take the next step..
but if she is actually dating and in a relationship with this other girl, then don't do that.. try to stay close friends with her and maybe even try to find yourself a girlfriend.. best way to get over someone you can't have is to find someone new yourself!
good luck. and all the best
2007-02-08 14:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will both date and probably sleep with other people in your life... and it is probably unlikely that you will date many people who have never shared an intimate moment with someone else.
It sounds like you need to start trying to meet other people, and hold off on sex at all until you are a little more comfortable with yourself. It will happen.
2007-02-08 21:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Beth B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not to late to let her know how you feel! I also believe you are now feeling more sad about what you think that you lost out on. In your mind you have lost something.
2007-02-08 23:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by kar506 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've basically answered your own question,like you've got a good grip on reality here. Perhaps you should tell her your feelings,and go from there
2007-02-08 22:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or you haven't really loved anything that you cannot do without it. As it is the case, you certainly cannot define the feeling of your loss.
2007-02-08 21:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ptuan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋