Why is the gay community so pushy on the subject of "coming out" ?

Question

Let's start by saying I'M gay .. yea .. 'nuf said..

But I was just wondering why gay organisations and action groups are so pushy on the subject of "coming out" ..

Why do they advertise it as being so important?

Because seriously .. I'm kinda tired to go through the questions here or hearing stories every day where people will tell someone who asks what he should do when he/she's finds out he/she's gay and they come out with "WELL YOU SHOULD LIKE SO LIKE COME OUT LIKE YOU KNOW !"..

It's like a SLOGAN .. It's so repetitive and it's treated like the "BIG PLAN" you should follow all the time ..

I wanted to know why because when I hear about kids whose parents would KILL them (literally) if they were to be gay and the only answer they get is " your parents will love you always" and "you should tell them , lying is'nt a nice thing" .. I find it a bit absurd..

Unfortunatly , not all parents will have inconditional love for their kids ..

Anyway .. just wanted your opinion..

Answer 1

By coming out we acknowledge that we are how we are meant to be, and it;s very hot and crowded in the closet be when to come out is a very personal thing

Answer 2

Well, I would guess that most of us who are "straight-acting" would want you to understand that we're not "acting." it's just who we are. Frankly, there is some advantage to it, because straight people tend to be more comfortable around us and a lot of gay guys do desire us. I think it's a fantasy that a lot of gay guys have of hooking up with a straight man. I was married for years and it seems to me that when some guys find that out, that's also a turn-on for them. What I do find annoying is guys who think they're more "manly" and equate that with being "less gay." Gay is gay in my opinion. Anyway, none of the "straight-acting" stuff ever made any big difference in my life, because in some respects I DON'T fit the stereotype in that I'm not sexually aggressive. But more than a few straight guys aren't, either. I'm a lot older than you, and personally, I think stereotypes are pretty meaningless. Hopefully, you'll come to the same conclusion eventually. The guy you mention is an obnoxious blowhard that I wouldn't spend ten minutes talking to, if that's all he has to talk about.

Answer 3

My perspective on the "Coming Out" out deal is that the more gays and lesbians who "Come Out" the more the straight people will see how many gays and lesbians there really are. A lot of straight people (the majority), especially those who live in smaller towns, still feel that being gay or lesbian is an obscurity or even a mental problem. The more who "Come Out" the more the majority of the population will see that being gay or lesbian is as normal as being straight.

I guess it figures in to the politics of it all as well. A minority issue. Gays and lesbians do not have all the same rights as straight people do. The more gays and lesbian who "Come Out" the less of a minority they will be and things like "Same-Sex-Marriages" will be accepted in more states.

Answer 4

I know your parents, and have sent them a hidden video that was made of you being slammed up the poot chute. Now your whole family knows. Problem solved.