I have a co worker that has chosen to "pick" on me. Nothing I do pleases this lady! I've tried everything. She just sits and waits for me to make a honest mistake. She has humiliated me infront of my staff and other staff in the building making me look bad. I have been to my boss who is totally supportive of me and feels that I have not done anything to warrent this and she has been spoken to. Well, now she looks like she might murder me. Apparently I am not the first person to have been "chosen". I have never had a problem with co workers ever so I am at a total stand still at what I should do now. I have spoken to her about our problems, spoken to superiors, and tried everything in my power to please her, nothing is working any suggestions would be great.
2007-02-08 12:39:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
quit and find a new job she is just jealous that you are better looking than she does
2007-02-08 12:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by k-joy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ignore her!....the lesss importance you give her the less she will affect your life.
She should behave professionally in a place of work and there is no space for personal digs at work...so if she insults you infront of ppl ask her infront of peopl what it is thats TROUBLING her...and be really sweet...smile at her and say....'i'm sorry (her name) but did i do something to upset you today?' the sweeter you are the more stupid others will think she is...she will stop saying things to you or about you infront of ppl or even behind your back bcos ppl will think shes just an idiot.
and when ur alone and if shes around dont give her attention...speak to her nicely and professionally only when you HAVE to...and if she makes comments at you just ignore them as if she's nt in the room....she will get so frustrated that she might just give up and decide to be civil with you.
but the trick is....you have to keep this up for as long as possible....your superiors will apreciate that you are being so tactful...and she will probably be on her way to being dismissed for unprofessional behaviour in time....who knows....wonders never cease to occur!
be strong and remember be resilient...dont take crap....and the meaner she is the sweeeeter you get... ok babe?
take care
2007-02-08 21:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jia K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do a thing. When ever she humiliates you, reprimands you, yells at you, or whatever, just stand still and stay quiet. When this goes on for a few times, you will see that others will come to your rescue and defend you. Do not defend yourself anymore. Your boss already knows and he will be informed by the other employees when they see what is happening. He will see and hear from the others and it will validate your story even more.
Hon, there are some people that you can never please no matter what you do. I had a co-worker like her, and she did the same thing to me.. I did everything you did, til I stopped and then others came to my defense. It got her to stop and won me a good standing in the company.. Good Luck..
2007-02-08 20:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
this is harrassment. as a worker, you have rights in the workplace. since what you have done has not worked then what you need to do is file a complaint against her. your boss should be able to help you with this process. feel lucky that you have a boss who is supportive. i experienced this similar situation but i had a boss that sided with the other person because she kissed their butt. i'm sure that between you and your boss and doing what i said, you can get this problem worked out. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-08 20:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done the right thing by going to your boss. I have been through this many, many times. She's threatened by you. There's nothing you can do to change her mind. Just keep going to the boss, keep your cool, don't stoop to her level and do the best you can. Don't go out of your way to please her. Do your job, stay out of her way as much as possible. Trying to please her only reinforces her. You pester your boss enough, he/she will finally get so sick of it and fire her.
I went though this once really badly. She was abussive as this girl is to you. I tried everything. Finally, I just went to my boss everytime. He got so tired of trying to talk sense into her that he said if she did it one more time, she was fired. She did...bye bye. It was like she couldn't help herself.
Another thing you can do is not only NOT try to please her, but be assertive. You tell her outright, not too nice, not too mean, that you will no longer tolerate her abuse towards you. That if she can't be nice to not say anything to you at all...
Keep a journal of all that she does and says.
2007-02-08 20:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL sounds like maybe i might have worked with her,as a matter of fact we call her judge Judy,she did that to me as well for quit sometime,until i got fed up with her,she was always watching over me to see if i was doing things right,so i would purposley do all the things the opposite way she didn't like,she will eventually get the hint to mind her own work.
you only take orders from your boss tell her.
2007-02-08 20:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your human resources department say about all this?? If nothing is being done then talk to a lawyer about your situation and find out what could be done about this. You don't have to put up with vendettas from anyone at work. Don't let this linger on any longer.
2007-02-08 20:44:42 · answer #7 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just smile, and "kill" her with kindness. Everytime she says something, just smile, and ask her if that is all. Then just nod politely, say "I'm sorry, I thought you were talking to me! " Smile and walk away. After a few of those replies, she will grow tired of not getting a response and not getting the satisfaction of knowing she is getting to you, she will quit. I wish you the best of luck. People like that are usually miserable in their own skin and only feel better about themselves when belittle someone else. They get lots of attention when they get a reaction from you.
2007-02-08 20:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to the human resources office at your work place and file a harassment complaint if she continues to be a problem. It sounds like she is creating a hostile environment. Good luck
2007-02-08 20:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by Deborah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have u talked to ur boss again, its either u r her. And techically he has to do something before u file a harassment charge. If the chick is clearly harassing u. Dont let it get to u and bring u down. But u do have to go to the chain of command, and put ur foot down. noone deserves that from anyone.
2007-02-08 20:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by sweetnlovenkindagurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation before. This woman wouldn't bother anyone but me and she would go off of her head at meso i know exactly how you feel.One day my boss heard the way she spoke to me and told me to tell her to **** off. He said don't put up with her **** you don't have to and since that day i never did again. She learnt to shut her mouth so yeah i guess what i am saying is just tell her to f#^k off.
2007-02-08 20:59:38 · answer #11 · answered by debra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋