What's my sexual preference?

Question

I swear my mind is hosting both genders but my body is female.

So I've dated plenty of guys. I've always thought girls were cute, but not in the "OMFG I'd bang her" sort of way. So my friend who has had some lesbian experiences told me about her adventures, that made her feel guilty doing so many years ago. I was turned on, and unconciously i'd act masculine around her, so when i saw her everyday after that, I fell for her. I recently confessed my feelings to her.. and she said that she would think about it, but she'd probably not date me, because she's trying to be straight. I asked her out yesterday, and now we're going out.

I'm a romantic type, I don't want to immdiately "bang" someone after a few dates.
so is it really my "guy" concience that likes her?
or myself?
what's going on!?

Answer 1

eenie meenie miny moe

Answer 2

I have a friend who has been married and has only ever been out with men, but she is gay....she wont come out of the closet and admit it and she has never been in a relationship with another woman, but I know she would much prefer to be with a woman than a man. I think the only way you are going to know what your preference is, is to be honest with yourself. If you think about being intimate with a woman, more than you do a man, then I think you have found yourself your answer. It could also be, you need to experiment with a woman to see if you really are that way inclined. It will only be in the doing will you decide if you are lesbian or not, but like my friend, she is definitely attracted to women, but because it would embarrass her and her family, she has never acted on it. I get the feeling you are a lesbian, but only you can decide that. Maybe you dated lots of men because it was the "right" thing to do and was expected. Your mind will tell you where your sexuality lies. I dont know whether this woman will be right for you though because you talk of being romantic with her and taking it slow, so you obviously want a proper relationship with her....I dont think thats what she really wants, so maybe you would be better if you kept this woman as just your friend, and found the relationship you need with another woman.

I hope you sort your mixed up mind up because once you do, it will be a lot easier to be who you want to be, and not who others expect of you.

Answer 3

Hmmm i'm quite slightly at a loss for words myself. i wager a call is something you've over something else with out disliking the different, eg liking chocolate icecream over vanilla, you ought to nonetheless like vanilla yet you want chocolate. Orientation regardless of the indisputable fact that is better unique. i imagine a sexual decision ought to narrate to behaviour or one of those major different, ie a call for particular sexual sex like S&M or a call for a actual trait in an major different jointly with a blonde over a brunette. Sexual orientation is having a unique attraction to a particular team, usually grouped into one among 3 catagories, gay, Bisexual or Heterosexual. i'd be very incorrect about this yet it really is my attitude on both thoughts. per chance a dictionary ought to help outline the words orientation and decision?

Answer 4

Your sexual orientation is bisexual.
You can be attracted to and have relationships with a person of either gender.

You can conduct your sex life in moral and ethical ways, despite what other opinions you may hear.
Congratulations on your recent enlightenment.

Answer 5

Well, your guy concience is a part of YOU. So you really are a Bi Person. That is not bad, but just so you know it is YOU that has the feelings for her.

Answer 6

You forgot to indicate your age. If you are past the adolescent period, you have not outgrown the stage wherein we experienced identity cirisis. Anyway, having feeling for both sexes is a right as long as you enjoy with whomever you are in a relationship but please make it one at a time!

Answer 7

your bisexual as am i its very confusing and hate to break it to ur friend she will NEVER be straight and it not that its ur 'guy' coming out in u its ur personality but warning many people dont like the fact of 2 girls being together well many straight females that it

Answer 8

I really don't think it matters what you label your self as, it sounds like your bi though. I think you should focus more on your feelings and thoughts. Sounds like you like this girl, isn't love and intmacy nice. Don't label and explore the true you. The "guy" voice in YOU! You are you nice and unique.

Answer 9

Maybe you just have an attraction to her, but if someone is "trying to be straight" that means they are leaning twards the other side too.

Answer 10

Maybe you dont really have a strict preference? Bi maybe? I predomonantly prefer femme types.. but they dont have to be Bio girls all the time (though most have been)