Pleazzz i need help my boyfriend leave me n i'm pregnant?

Question

oo well hi my name is aracely i'm 15 years old and i'm sooo sad my boyfriend leave me for some other girl shes ugly and i'm worry because i'm pregnant and he knew about the baby and he still leave me alone he told me that was my own problem=( i talked to my mom and thanks to god shes going to help me i'm 5 months and i'm having two babies! it makes me sad when i see him ata school hugging and kissing with his new girl everynight i cry alot n i dont know what to do i need hin with me to help me with our babies but he dont want to!! i dont know what to do???=(

O'com people i just asked for advice not 4 u making me feel bad i know i should use protection when i was having sex but everyone make mistakes i'm no perfect eather ya'll rite!! soo thanks for ya'll support

Answer 1

If I were you I would think about adoption. There are many loving families that could provide a good home for your babies. Raising children is very difficult, and you are only a child yourself. Once you have a child it is always about what is best for them. I hope all works out for you and your babies.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry, sweet heart. Chances are that he will never try to be there physically for you and your babies and that's sad because I'm sure they will be a wonderful joy. So, don't hold out hope that he'll come around and suddenly be there for you.

HOWEVER, they're his children also and he needs to make sure that he is at least financially taking care of them... I don't care if he's only 15, if you're old enough to have sex you are old enough to get a job and support the product of your bad descisions (Like you are doing - you should be proud of yourself) - so you and your mom need to take him to family court and have court ordered child support placed on him!! Talk to a lawyer ASAP

Now, let me just say this. Yes, you made some mistakes, and I hope you realize that... but I'm proud that you are taking responsibility for your actions and you are going to raise these children. This doesn't mean that your life has to be over!! There are so many options for women like you now! Most importantly - Finish your education! You can finish high school and college all online now! Do it! This is will ensure the best life for you and your little bundles of joy and second - DON'T MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE AGAIN. I think you best bet now is to make sure you are married the next time you have sex! And choose a better man!! None of this will be easy! But I have faith that you can do it! I'm praying for you!! Good Luck!!

Answer 3

Actually, your babies are going to need a father eventually. It's so much nicer to have two parents but they must love each other. You are grieving because this boyfriend is a jerk. Well, he will be a jerk tomorrow and the day after that! The reason people jump down your throat about being so immature is that your boyfriend probably was a jerk yesterday and the day before that and you still act like he'd be good to have back in your life. I guess that is the biggest sign of immaturity - that you ignore how bad he is and just want him back. Change that thinking! Give your mother a big kiss and tell her that just like your babies will grow up, you will grow up and be smarter in the future. Believe that and work to make it happen - finish school.

Answer 4

I know you are in a bad place. I am glad however, to hear that your mom is going to help you. When the babies are born you need to establish paternity and take him to court for child support. If he left you that means he doesn't care and you are probably better off without him. You may want to consider adoption also. You could do an open adoption so that you could be a part of the babies lives but still be a kid for now, and then make something of your life when you get older. Best of luck deciding what to do.

Answer 5

This is tough I know I have been there, only I had one baby. I think you need to stop thinking about all the stuff thats not happening and look at what is happening, and that is you are having two babies! Your mother is going to help you!
You have a open mind and are willing to ask for help! I know that this is hard and Im not going to say it will be easy, because its not. You are going to be raising two people that isnt easy for anyone. Shure your still and school and your boyfriend dosent want to be with you right now and Im sorry for that, again I was there too.
What you need to do is stop thinking about that old boyfriend ask him if he wants to be a part of the babys life, if not, forget it, move on. Believe me I know thats hard, its very hard but you dont need him. If he dosent make you smile, laugh, or treat you with the respect you need him and he dosent deserve you, You need to only think about positive things.
Be the better person dont go to his level. Be strong and raise those babies. I know if you were ment to be he will come around. Or you will find some one who will treat you and your babies well.
I got pregnant at your age and Im now 25. I now have three beautiful children, Im married and I have a great carreer. I couldnt be happier.
I finished high school and I dont look back to and regret anything.
The important thing you gotta remember is it dosent matter whats not happening right in your life, its what your going to do to make it right.
So think about the good things and smile enjoy life as it comes my oldest is now in 3rd grade and I am so proud of him. I dont think about what I could have done differently because Im happy with the way things are.
I know you will be too.
If I can help in any way please email me
Good luck to you and congratulations on your pregnacy!

Answer 6

well your young and that is what makes it harder. I am sorry to hear that he is being that way he is not ready to grow up but thier is nothing much you can do but be a good mom and be thier for your kids that right now is the most important thing I know it is hard to do but forget about him he is not worth it you will find some guy down the road that will love you and both your kids be thankful that your mom is thier with you some kids dont even have that. He will regret it later on in life but you know that is his problem and child support he will have to pay you when he is old anough to get a job but at this point dont worry about him. you go on live your life and be happy go on still go to school and collage because if he see you happy trust me he will double look what he is doing to you, I wish you the best sweety and here is my email [e-mail] I am 23 and I got preg young not the same situation but I know girls who have been in the same spot good luck

Answer 7

I think you'd be better off if you give the babies up for adoption. You're still a baby yourself. You've got YEARS before you're really ready to be a mother. I'm twice your age, and there are plenty of days when I feel like I'm not old enough.

Get yourself some good birth control (or better yet, stop having sex until you're old enough to deal with the consequences without help from your mother).

There's no use crying over your boyfriend. He sounds like a creep. Why would you want to be with someone who would treat you that way?

Answer 8

Firstly, this girl is asking for help and advice. YES she is too young to be a mum, especially for twins but its a bit too late to tell her off now.

Sweety your very lucky that your mum is giving you the support you need, please please please dont take it for granted. Now that u are going to be a mother your going to need to grow up and mature really fast. Your ex boyfriend is acting like a typical teenager and unfortunately wont get any better soon. Is there any way ur mum can talk to his parents and work out some kind of arrangement with financial support and as much as an asshole as he is, DO NOT cut him out of these childrens lives, they have a right to know their father.

Sweety i wish you the best of luck and try not to let ur ex and his new gf get to u, most likely it wont last. Spend the next 4 months preparing yourself as well as u can for these 2 babies....

Answer 9

Hi there Aracely,
First thing you need to do is don't pay any attention to the mean comments that people have made to you! If all they were going to do was say something cruel why did they bother to answer? Some people are just mean! Do not let them upset you, you have enough to deal with. What is done is done and you do not need to hear about what you cannot change!
Listen honey, you have gotten some good advice. Listen to Tiff and some of the other kind ladies that wrote to you. They have babies too and they are rooting for you. You should be proud of yourself, you could have done what so many young girls do and killed your precious babies but you didn't. You are doing the right thing. I know it will be hard but when you hold your sweet babies in your arms it will all be worth it.
Please try not to pay any attention to your old boyfriend and his new girlfriend. You should pity her for being with someone who has no sense of responsibility. He is no good and you do not need him in your life! Listen to the other ladies on here that told you to see a lawyer and to do what ever you need to do to file for child support from this guy. Your babies have a right to be taken care of and he has a financial responsibility to them whether he realizes it or not! He is going to have to grow up in a hurry because he is going to have to pay child support for two babies!
Thank the Lord for your mother. She is a wonderful lady to be standing beside you and be willing to help you. Not all mothers would react the way she has you know, you are very lucky in that regard.
Honey, I want to tell you also that you really need to be going to a good doctor that has experience in high risk pregnancies. You are going to have to listen to what your doctor says and do everything that she tells you to do. Make sure you take your prenatal vitamins, they are very important and you need the folic acid in them, among other things. Be sure that you take them, if they make you nauseous take them at bedtime, they will not bother you then. You need to eat well and get plenty of rest. The demands on your body are twice as much as if you were only carrying one baby. You need to take very good care of yourself. I am glad that you are going to school, go as long as you can and get back to school after the babies are born if you can. If not then you need to work on getting your GED. Without at least some education you will have a very hard time making your life better for you and your sweet babies.
I work with young girls all the time and if you would write to me I would be happy to share with you some of things that I have learned over the years. Your situation is special for several reasons and you are going to need special care if you are going to give birth to healthy babies and take care of yourself! I am not trying to scare you it is just that you have really got your work cut out for you. Your job is to take care of yourself and two little babies that are counting on you for everything! That is a heavy load for a little girl! Again, thank the Lord for your Mama! She is a wonderful person. Write to me and I will write back. You can do this and you do not need that poor excuse for a "man" that got you pregnant! Keep your chin up!
Take care honey and I hope that I hear from you!
Love and Blessings
Lady Trinity~

Answer 10

Sweety...you are going to have to stop thinking about him...you have 2 new lives growing inside you that will need more time and attention.

Make sure to get your self set up with a lawyer and take him to get yourself custody and the court will also have him pay child support. It may not be much now but it will adjust as he grows up.

15,,, you are still growing yourself...right now you will have to think about school...birth...babies...and maturing very fast.

Sorry for the broken heart! Keep your chin up.