What the hell is........?

Question

my hubby's problem???

I ask him to do small favors for me and he always complains and says "I ALWAYS HAVE TO DO EVERYTHING"..............what the hell is his damn problem, I always do crap for him and never complain about it.

What should I do? Should I slap some sense into him

Answer 1

Try going on strike for one week although you will end up living in a complete utter pigsty it will keep him in line throughout the rest of your relationship. Not to mention you will get back rubs and pedicures from him after that. Just insist that he help shovel out your home at the end of the strike. Take care and God bless.

Answer 2

This is funny. You are complaining to us right now, instead of complaining to him. Why can't you two just do things for each other without the complaining? If you just do it, things will get done.

It also has to do with how you ask the person to do the things you want done. Are you asking kindly or are you asking by being demanding? Are you asking with soft words or are you asking by yelling? Maybe he doesn't want to do the things you want him to do because he probably thinks that you are not 'appreciative' what he does for you. Have you ever told him 'thank you' for doing the things he does? Or does he come home to a nagging wife complaining to him the minute he walks in the door? This works both ways!

Look at this in a different perspective. If you know he doesn't want to do those things, there has to be a reason why? So you need to ask him why he complains, and I am sure he would want to know why you complain too. If you see that this is a patern, then sit down and talk to him, not with the yelling, real talk. That's how you fix problems, by talking and hearing what the other person has to say. Don't take the easy way out be ignoring it.

If you two want to make each other happy, just do them without complaining, but be appreciative when it gets done by saying, "Thank you for doing that for me". I am sure you will get great results later on.

Otherwise, consider on reading these two books called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage".

I am also wondering if you talk like this with him with the way you put up your question here?? Makes me wonder. (smile)

Answer 3

There is a thing called "distribution of duties in marriage" Sit down together and agree on what ot do. Don't ask him to get you a drink or some crap like that... but if he won't take out the trash or something, that's worth discussing.

Answer 4

Had the same problem with my EX. Best advice I can give you is to stop doing anything for him at all and don't ask him for help with anything you need done either. That will get him worried. He'll be wondering what happened. When he finally offers to help with something, don't jump on the opportunity, say "no thanks" in a civil tone but not a sweet one. This will have him very worried that you no longer need him to fulfill the "man" role in the house and he'll be positively eager to help the next time he sees that you need it. This always worked for me. Basically, act like you don't need him. And if that doesn't work, you can always kick his @ss!! Good luck!

Answer 5

I feel sorry that you and husband carry on like this. Two people in a marriage should want to do things to please each other. My thought on this is one of you are not pulling your weight in this marriage. Taking care of everyday needs is a two way street and shouldn't be an argument when your two mature adults. If what you say is true about you doing all sorts of things for him, then why is he reacting in this negative attitude? He makes it sound like you do nothing around your place and he does it all. Someone needs to step up to the plate.and face the facts. Cocoa

Answer 6

No don't slap him instead just poke him in the eye with your finger.Maybe if you stop doing these favors for him for awhile he will get the message and try to do better.Tell him he whines like a little kid whenever he doesn't want to do something.Also let him fix his own meals and wash his cloths for awhile and see if he will pitch in a little help then.

Answer 7

you know what im not one for confrontations but one thing i have learnt from marriage is that if you are getting attitude you have to nip it in the bud by asking him to his face...even if you argue about it at least you will have everything out in the open and hopefully it wont happen again!

just ask him what his problem is...communicate with him...we can all give you answers and what we think may be wrong but in your marriage only you and he can figure out what the real problem is....so go fix it girl!

if you do stuff for him without complaining and he continues to complain when u ask him to do stuff ask him how he would feel if you gave him an earful everythime you had to go do stuff for him....

men can be self centered sometimes but if you keep calm and communicate (sometimes assertively) it usually helps!

good luck babe...oh and if that doesnt work send him to me i'll fix him up for ya! *rolls up the sleeves* he he heeee

Answer 8

How about you give him a taste of his own medicine. Complain about everything he asks you to do for him. And if he still doesn't get the message, stop doing things for him all together.

Answer 9

Call it crazy, but since I have to be angry to use profanity ..., and you ask questions when you have time to compose yourself... with profanity in them.... I'm struggling with how to say this without sounding like some kind of snob or something (because I am not).

Well, at the risk of being rude (Heaven forbid), that's not exactly very classy. I have a problem with you because of the way you asked the question: I wonder if you ever examine your own behavior?

Answer 10

then you start complaining and if he says anything then ask him what is his damn problem tell him that u are not a door mat and you are not a robot and you did not marry him to be a maid that a marriage is suppose to be 50 /50