My boyfirend has a brother who has a 2 year old and is not married and just leaves the child with everyone else all the time and basically my boyfirend has turned into the father. I understand that his neice comes first but his brother is taking advantage of everyone and intruding on our time (I live 2 hours away and we can only see each other for two days every other week). Our relationship is very serious and heaing towards marriage but I can't handle this if we get married. I think hs brother needs to grow up and take responsibility and have consideration for others, but I have been told that its not my place to say anything becuase it is his brother, but I am about to go nuts. Do I say something or not?
2007-02-08 12:25:42 · 3 answers · asked by bluealexblanche 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yep.... time to get your cards out on the table now before you get in deeper. My brother recently broke up with a woman for the same reason (she was sure she'd be raising her sisters kids and it was clear that everytime things started going well the sister would suddenly want to be mom again and mess it up so that the gf would have to dig them out all over again). Your bf can choose this roller coaster.... but you don't h ave to go along for the ride. You need to handle it sensitively....obviously he loves his neice. But being shuffled from place to place is not good for her.....she deserves to have a great Uncle to visit and spend some special time with.....or maybe there will be custody arrangement....but its time for a gentle, but clear, conversation about your bf's intent. Then you have a tuff choice...in 100 percent or OUT 100 percent....
2007-02-08 15:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, if you think dating is hard on your time together, wait until you're married with kids of your own!
How selfish of you to consider only yourself, rather than admiring your boyfriend for his devotion to family and assisting him in caring for his niece. What a great man you've got there that puts his family first ... he'll do the same for you once married.
I'd say nothing if I were you, and change your attitude. You've got a good one there, he's a keeper!
2007-02-08 20:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry your bf and move away
2007-02-08 20:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by schuschtermat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋