I might VERY well be pregnant (read my other questions for more info) and I'm freaking out.. when we had sex he didn't have a girlfriend.. but now he does. He doesn't know I might be pregnant because I don't want to tell him anything until I am 100% sure. I hung out with him a couple days ago though and he asked me if I was pregnant and said "You look fatter, your boobs are bigger, and you've been acting moody" I didn't say anything and just instead laughed it off. I'm going to wait about a week and take a pregnancy test. I took one about 3 weeks ago and it was negative but I think it was too early to tell. If I am, should I tell him over the phone or in person?!! I'm just afraid in person I would be at a loss for words. So how would I say it?? And guys, which one would you prefer?!
Positive answers only please!!!!!!!
2007-02-08 12:01:12 · 17 answers · asked by jasmyn 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am not a guy , but i remember that all too vivid memories of telling him , it was like i through ice cold water in his face!!! You must first find out if you are indeed pregnant. No need in shocking someone if you aren't absolutely positive. You must tell him In person, and no matter what the reaction, remember that it will be shocking and he might reject you at first or embrace you. Don't let it get to you. He may come around after the shock factor wears off. It takes two to make a baby and he should be responsible for his actions too. Seek help from a crisis pregnancy center. Lots of luck.
2007-02-15 08:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by Jade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in person. Ask him to a short meal (or out for coffee or whatever) sit him down and tell him you think you might be pregnant but that it is too early to tell. Tell him you are informing him and not expecting anything from him right now. And then give him time to digest the information.
And I mean, really give him time. not just a few days, think at least a full week before you say anything again. Also, get checked by a doctor. I tried those stupid tests and they NEVER worked for me. They always said negative and I was most definately pregnant.
If you are afraid that you will be at a loss for words, write it down and read from the paper directly. Be sure you tell him you realize he is in a relationship and that you are not asking him to do anything at this time. Since you are not sure yet, you really can't ask him to do anything until you are sure.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-12 21:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by Chali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first get a pregnancy test. You can go to your physician or if not your local family planning clinic. This is not something you want to leave up to a stick. The stick is not always right. Then realize that he helped create this life inside of you, I realize it is your body but he should at least have the right to choose if he wants to be involved. If you decide you do not want or cannot have this child then there is always adoption. I was married when I became pregnant with my fifth child. I did not want to have another child. So I looked into adoption.I changed my mind (she is almost two now and is the light of my life).
Then if you need to, write out what it is you feel in a letter to him. Call him set up a meeting to talk then hand him the letter and tell him to wait until he finishes reading it to say anything. Then be prepared. He may run as fast as he can. However he may decide he wants to be this childs father. Also just because he decides to be the father or not does not mean he does or does not want to be in a relationship with you that is a completely separate issue that you may want to address maybe on another day. But above all else get that test. And good luck
2007-02-15 11:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would take the test now. You will for sure get a answer now, you don't have to wait another week. Anyways, you need to tell him to his face. That is not something you tell someone over the phone. But I have been in your place and the best way to say it, is just to say it. I'm pregnant.
2007-02-16 18:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi - positively is a good way to think about this situation. ;-)
i suggest that you back off from this guy until you have a definate pos or neg test - in the mean time you can get clear about the possible ways you may deal with this and what you want. you can be pro-active about this and you will feel so much better if you are! Guys do tend to freak out when a girl says she "may" be pregnant - best to give him the facts when you have them. I think you should definately tell him face to face if it is a positive - no matter what his reaction - and be prepared with how you feel about the situation and what it is you want ie. to carry the pregnancy to term or to terminate - it is your body.
hope this helps
lots of luck xx
2007-02-16 15:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by emma m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would tell him in person if you think he may be pleased about it. If you feel he is the type of person that would freak I would call him and just say I have something to tell you and i felt uncomfortable telling you in person So here goes.....:) GOOD LUCK GIRL! I am on my third... And my man is thrilled ... I hope everything works out the way u want.
2007-02-16 10:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by adena20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to find out for sure if you actually ARE pregnant. It doesn't do much good to go running to him and tell him that you MIGHT be pregnant... go run off to a pharmacy and pee on a stick (or two if you need to confirmation).
Why wait? It's not like it's going to go away if you are, or that you will suddenly become pregnant if you aren't now.
Go run... we'll wait.
2007-02-16 17:22:47 · answer #7 · answered by aZoomm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until u are sure....I hope for your sake and the...... could be....baby that u are not.....if you are ...tell him in person...and if your not ..well I hope you learned something from this....remember sex is for married people...ready to take on the responsibly of not just having a baby but raising it. as for what do you say.....please give me a break ..... you were naked with this guy ... you should be able to say a couple of words...like " I'm pregnant!!!!!! " I hope your not..... remember this next time some guy wants sex....
2007-02-16 17:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he noticed the physical & emotional changes, then it's safe to assume he may think your pregnant; you just hadn't confirmed it. Confirm with your OB/Gyn or pregnancy center of choice that you are pregnant. If you're PG you will need to let him know. If you need to tell him over the phone, then arrange to meet very soon to talk.
Best of luck to you..
2007-02-16 14:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by Tinka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think at first u need to take another pregnancy test if it turns out to be positive then i think u should plan a good eve out with him and tell him,if he will be sensible enough he will take the responsibility,u need to tell him as this is something u won't be able to hide from him for long
2007-02-16 06:18:31 · answer #10 · answered by monalisa three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋