Can any man......?

Question

justify leaving a pregnant woman? or left their pregnant girlfriend because they 'couldnt cope'? why did you do it and did you give a second thought about the woman you've impregnated. I'd like to know as all we seem to hear is that a man 'cant cope with the whole pregnancy thing'. you thoughts plz

this is just hypothetical, my partner would never leave me in this predicament, Iv just read a ladies problem and her fella did this to her. Ohh and not ALL men get the shitty end of the stick bootstrap, why didnt you just answer the question?

Not ALL men are cash cows NULL.... have you been to the uk, you cant get fcuk all out of these men their far to busy modifing their cars, boy racers.lol

Cherse, what about the men who decide they cant cope when their partner is say 5,6,7 months along, surely they should of thought about this when their partner first found out ?

Bogus man! Im speechless! if only you could see my face!

Answer 1

Basically they are to immature to handle the responsibility of the whole situation.Then all the emotional changes that you ladies go through can really get to the guy.I'm not making excuses just being honest.And no there is no justification for leaving.

Answer 2

Hey that's a toughie! And I hope that this isn't going to be taken too scathingly.

I'm a dad & I'd have twenty more if I could afford it and didn't have back ache!



Sometimes there are many overwhelming circumstances that could instigate this situation. Sudden realisation with the loss of "freedom" plus also, fear, would number quite high in the rankings. And also, some men are dogs & should be castrated.


Then there is the relationship & what has gone before within that rellationship. One moment from a man's point of view that freaked me out, was during our first child's term of pregnancy, was when the imbalance of the hormones kicked in big time, causing all manner of psychological instability in my wife. All I could do was pull out some more hair & send her down to one of our closest friends for a little reassurance & some tender words. That was no fun at all and enough to make any guy run for the hills.

You also have to look at the guy as a person & ask is the man "man enough" to go through with the whole kit & kaboodle. After all, the experience is what truely makes a man out of you. You gotta remember that most older men still think that they are 25 well past their 40th birthday! And they will never mature & that includes me too!

In another instance, we are supposed to be in a responsible society where they teach us about birth control and the spreading of STD.

So hyperthetically, no. You shouldn't do the crime if you can't do the time. But there is also the Laws of Karma to be taken into account too, where 'what you reap is what you sew' is the mantra and comes into play and that is by far, too complexed a view to be considered here and now. I'll add to this bit later.

If this is a personal situation, I truely hope that everything goes well and possibly seek some professional guidance.

Answer 3

My mother was just as at fault, maybe more so, than my father. She knew what she was doing. My father didn't give it a second thought before, during, or after my conception and birth. That's why, although I love my mother, I still have disrespect for the two of them for not having gotten married. There is no good reason not too, as far as I am concerned. They just chose not to marry. As for my father, he's just a dirt bag without a conscious who'll have a miserable after life. There are lessons to be learned here.

Answer 4

In my opinion I think that they are just scared. They get this thought inside their heads: "Oh my god, I got her pregnant, what the hell am I going to do now? I guess running away from it will make it better. That way I won't have to deal with reality." Honestly, men have a totally opposite wired mind-set than women do. When they are under pressure, some men think of the first escape plan possible. That is why some men are so hard to talk to about emotions. Seriously, even the worst of the worst cheaters all just have one thing in the back of their head: (if they get a girl pregnant) they are afraid. Afraid thinking that they are not capable of raising a child, afraid of having to take care of this child the rest of their life, afraid of RESPONSIBILITY. That's all it is honestly. Hope I cleared some things up for ya! Let me know if I didn't.

Answer 5

Sure. Our legal system gives all the power to the woman...the man is just seen as a cash cow. The woman gets her way with everything, and the guy gets no say. Everyone will beleive her and call him the deadbeat.

Only if the guy could have the legal right to dump the baby and or kill it if he wished too.(or at least have it 50/50 both parents..and both must agree to such things or it does not happen.

Answer 6

If a woman was violent towards me, I would tell her I have to leave, but I will be back when she is not like that anymore, then I would still support her. If I stayed she could hurt me, herself or the baby. I would definitely talk to her family about it and get her some help of course.

Answer 7

This can be the act of a sex hungry person only. Sicere & love dedicated person can't even think of it. So better dream a real lover who can enjoy the whole pregnancy & stand by it.

Answer 8

It takes two to Tango girl, if your not on a birth control system & no condom who is responsible ultimately?
You are, you are the one who will have to work out why this situation has arisen,

Hyperthetically of course.

Answer 9

My friend's father left his mother for another woman while she was still pregnant.

The new woman became pregnant immediately and he left her also.

Twenty-one years later, my friend was horrified to discover that his girlfriend of the last threee months was actually his half-sister!

Answer 10

I am not a man, but am very familiar with such situations...it is called 'he is too freaking immature to have a baby and you will feel much better raising just one baby then having to deal with two!' Let him go and do not look back, he will be nothing but a pain for you!