2007-02-08 11:56:49 · 13 answers · asked by mark t 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well tell her that you know how bad she wants a child. However, you just are not ready to be responsible for a child yet. This is not something you should compromise on because if you do you wont be the best parent you can be. Plus, if you do have children I'm sure you would rather it be with a wife rather then a girlfriend. I would tell her that while you respect her desires for a child that you would appreciate her respecting your choice to wait. If she cant, maybe you two just are not in the same place in your lives and you should move on. However, if she wants a child really bad and knows your against it would be in your best interest if you are responsible for birth control because if she is she may "forget" to take it and you will be a daddy like it or not. Best wishes!
2007-02-08 12:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by J&A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That kind of condition usually is followed by others. If you feel that you are not ready for kids. Then my suggestion is don't go through with it. If you do. You will have a lot of resentment towards the child, and possibly miss treat he/she. Also towards your girlfriend. Wait until you both want kids. It will be better for the both of you.
And if you GIRLFRIEND does not like the idea. You guys need to reevaluate your relationship.
Oh. And never use protection she suggests to be used. Always supply your own if you insist on staying with her.
2007-02-08 20:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lee R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a new girlfriend, (and a lawyer)
IF she wants to make you submit to her demands without consideration for your feelings and choices, its definitely not a fair and co-operative relationship, its a strong warning that you will get burned for lots of money, half your income, maybe more. She will keep the kid and have the authorities chase you till you keep on paying, all the while she badmouths you behind your back. Don't let love blind you to this future potential.
If a couple will have a child, it should be a mutual decision, mutually wanting it. Don't make yourself victim of voluntary rape and robbery.
When you have a new mate, and things are mutual, still its wise to do some legal paperwork, just to protect yourself from financial and social harm beyond your control, in the event of breakup or change of mind.
You're wise to ask this question. Keep on being WISE ! :)
More power to you !!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-08 20:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by million$gon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its a good idea.
Don't you think if she was mature enough to be a mother, she wouldnt make it a condition in your relationship? That is a red flag right there. Nobody should try to guilt trip you into having a kid. Its a huge responsibility and not something to be taken lightly. I say tell you GF that you arent ready to have a baby yet and she can take it or leave it.
2007-02-08 20:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by cherokee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, be careful. I think you may want to stay away from that. I know s-x is nice but this is a big deal.
I think you could end up paying child support even if you're not married, and this doesn't sound like a solid relationship. If she's immature, maybe she shouldn't be a mom.
Relationships are difficult enough without babies. Marriages are difficult enough without babies.
Don't ruin your lives! This includes the child's.
2007-02-08 20:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by K.B. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im not a guy bu i hope i can help u out a little just tell her u are not ready to have kids and if she still wants one try and comromise a little most woman want kids of there own but if the guy doesnt it makes it hard so just talk to her and explain the reason u dont want one and mabey she will understand and not bug u about it anymore
2007-02-08 20:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by nicky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a 'condition' of what? your relationship!? that's insane. there is no way that i would ever let someone push me into something that i was not ready for, especially something like children. if she's really that weird and pushy, i would rethink your whole relationship with her. if she really wants a baby, she'll have one. women have been known to sabotage birth control before.
2007-02-08 20:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it until you are married where things are 50/50. She can get the kid and everything if you don't work out. Is it really worth paying child support all your life. Kids last forever... think before you conceive.
2007-02-08 20:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sheila 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but if you're not ready, don't do it. If she insists, break up with her. That's just wrong to make it a condition. It's wrong!
2007-02-08 19:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by T Time 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find a new girlfriend!!! if your not ready; then come on your not ready! don't be pressured into anything you don't want. I know that there are plenty more women out there ... my advice is move on. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-08 20:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by ♥just me♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋