Is it just a 'teen' thing, or do people reallly know they're gay from an early age? My son & I don't have an issue with any of this & we talk openly, but I worry because other closed-minded people might make life very difficult.
2007-02-08 11:31:11 · 24 answers · asked by funnygirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thanks everyone, you've all been great. Thank you for your time & thoughts
2007-02-08 11:49:33 · update #1
yes it is possible for a 12 year old to b gay, but he may not yet know that hes gay. a person can find out that ther gay as soon as they start to become attracted to the same sex, which can b as young as 12.
2007-02-08 11:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, ask your son if truly knows what the term gay means. I know that might sound like a stupid question, but from what I have noticed nowadays, a lot of younger kids are calling their friends gay, thinking it's a substitute for calling someone stupid or dumb. If he acutally knows the meaning of the word he's using, then I say tell him that there is nothing wrong with the way his friend is. I mean there's obviously a reason as to why this friend of his (whether he is gay or not) is the way he is. Childhood raising I mean. Besides if you and your son don't have any conflicting issues with one another when you discuss the matter, then it shouldn't be a problem telling your son that it is OK to be gay (assuming his friend is). As far as other people being close-minded about this, tell your son to keep a watch over for his friend, just in case something does happen. I mean they are friends are they not? There's absolutely nothing wrong for looking out for your friends, right? Right! Good Luck and I hope I have shined some light on this situation!
2007-02-08 19:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by Cherise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon now, tell the truth. Actually you are worried in case he fancies your son aren't you. And as for the part of your question which states - Is it too early to tell? It seems it's not too early for YOU to tell everyone. You DO have an issue with it and I can just imagine your talks. I'm sorry for being harsh but I know some men who are gay. They are the most kindest and understanding people you could wish to meet. They understand women completely and I think this is because they have a feminine side. The only ones who upset me are the ones who 'mince about' - as seen on TV.
2007-02-08 21:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sandee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wonder why you and your son are worried about if is bestfriend is gay. You say it wouldn't change anything. That yall are open minded so why ask about it. Being gay is not like it once was a lot of people have become more open minded. Also you said " might make life more difficult" for who your son or the friend?
2007-02-08 19:51:02 · answer #4 · answered by BABY GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of these situations where he may or he may not be. However, doesn't seem he has came to you or your son seeking advise and really at present it is nothing whatsoever to do with you. Even if you do worry about closed-minded people making his life very difficult you have to remember that thousands have been there before him and had to deal with it. You could be opening a 'whole can or worms' for a family that could well have their own suspicions, already speaking with the boy and wanting to deal with it in their own way. If your son is only 12 you should be encouraging him to keep his thoughts to himself as a fellow peer spreading rumours can do untold damage. He may be entirely wrong in his thoughts. Parents often think their child a lot more mature than they actually are but some times 12 yr olds get carried away. I have gay friends and like you don't have any issue with this, maybe you have no intention of speaking with anyone about this at present but saying you worry certainly sounds like you may be thinking of it. Slighty concerned for him doesn't set alarm bells off but actually worrying about someone this distant from you certainly does. You must tread carefully with this one.
2007-02-08 19:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes u can tell if there gay at an early age or they might just b going through a phase b cause they can't get a gf so don't worry unless he hits on your son
2007-02-08 19:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by iambeautiful65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a gay friend that i grew up with and i always susspected he was gay because he acted kinda girly got on better with the girls he loved to do our hair and he would always jump at the chance to dress up in girls clothes and have his makeup done. He ended up coming out when he was 17, i think he always knew he was gay but for all those years wanted to be "normal" so tried to be straight. he ended up coming out as soon as he moved out of home and we all supported him in this, he is a much happier person now. So yes i think that you can be gay at 12 and know or not know i doubt very much he will come out though till he is at the end of his teen years.
2007-02-08 19:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know alot of gay people in my life, and most of them say that they did know at an early age and if people would have excepted them at that time their lives could have been so much easier.
So yes people can know they are gay at an early age, but it is sure to confuse them.
People that would make your life difficult are not wort your time...
2007-02-08 19:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by rev_rbm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all- my partner & I both knew we were gay from around age 6,most gay people know from an early age, some deny it and some accept it.
2007-02-09 09:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people know from the start that they are in the wrong body
Others work it out later
Some just think they are because the hormones haven't kicked in properly yet
Either way I hope you remain friends with him
He may be needing someone to speak openly with soon - usually not parents!
2007-02-08 19:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋