we married 2 yrs ago and it has been bad. i loed him back then and looking back i see he waas mentally abusing me. however the tables turned somewhere along the line and i am a much stronger person, though things have got better its still not the marriage i hoped for. he spends time at home in bed, only nice when hes looking something, moans about every penny he spends, we get some govt help and from his wages only £40 goes towards our rent, the rest is up to mt though he will buy things, if he wants to. makes me feel bad that he has to take that money 4 rent! we have seperated so many times i cant count. we have baby he loves but has no time for, happiest when drinking or running after friends, visa finished nxt week, i want to leave him and b ok but i am afraid. and i feel bad about son having no daddy though i know we will be ok. if i tell we r seperated he might gte sent back to his country, maybe this is the best thing?
2007-02-08 10:56:55 · 10 answers · asked by alroka 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let him go, take the baby.
theres nothing more upsetting than unstable mother for a child, if you can make yourself happier by him leaving you should let him go.
it will only do good for your baby later on in life, to have a happy confident mother even if that means a lot of hard work.
it will work out, leave him. let him go.
2007-02-08 11:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by Beautiful_Oddities 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to leave and its sad that you do not see it.. You Son should be the driving force.. Let him think whatever he wants to think but deep down we all know the truth and i know how you feel and i bet he black mails you everytime you up and leave, telling you that you only married him for the visa.. The God that put you there will see you thru.. just leave and this time do not come back.. *when people show you the real them do not stick around to find out what tricks they have left up their sleeves.. don't feel bad, feel blessed you have a son that you have to protect and shelter.
2007-02-08 11:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your son, start over and send that good for nothing man back where he came from. Make very sure he cannot get out of country with that baby or you will never see him again.
2007-02-08 11:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I think you are having some self esteem issues that you haven't realized. The man is as worthless as a penny with a hole in it, and you keep making excuses for him. There is a saying that my sisters taught me, and that is, "You can do bad, by yourself" He is using you, and you know it. Let him go.
2007-02-08 11:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by Biff Stew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave the dude, he will never change. Your baby has you and that's all he needs. Let immigration send him back to his country that's probably what he needs for being such a jerk with you. Don't worry about him!!!
2007-02-08 11:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by seeluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DIVORCE! GET OUT NOW! What a crappy relationship! Don't worry about the kid. My best friend is doing the same thing (Single parent) and she is doing great! Good Luck!
2007-02-08 11:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt sound like he's putting much effort in to your marriage, you might be better off by yourself. maybe suggest to him that you want to seperate and see if his attitude changes at all.
2007-02-08 11:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by zimba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most importnt thng is ur hapiness, and if ur kid grows up with that kind of man he will end up being like him. get out of it NOW, ur kid will learn to live without a dad, plenty of kids r doing fine without one.
~.good luck.~
2007-02-08 11:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by 1Tourniquet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id divorce him and send him to his country he used you anyway for the green card and citensenship
2007-02-12 10:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. If you aren't happy with him don't stay with him. It's not good on your children, your children are going to pick up on it.
2007-02-08 11:02:50 · answer #10 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋