For a few months i have been noticeing that a few of my clothes, mainly underwear were goin' missing, but thought nothin' of it. then about a day ago i come home early from college and caught my brother - 18. In full 'drag'.
Now he is askin' for me to get him some bra's, thongs, tights, and make up of his own.
Should i let him or is there somthing i can do to stop him from doing this?
2007-02-08 10:53:16 · 24 answers · asked by So. W 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
There's nothing you can do that will stop him now that he's started cross-dressing. So, you might as well give him a hand & turn him into the sister you've always wanted. You can give him all of your clothes & teach him how to be a girl, you might as well make the best of it.
2007-02-09 23:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by J 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
OK, couple of things. First - thank you from a crossdresser. Thanks for being kind and thoughtful and open minded. This would be a much nicer world with more people that had a spark of compassion. Next thing - I think it's an awesome idea! Your brother should be able to understand that the Bride is the star of the wedding. Nothing should distract from her special day - the day SHE is supposed to be the princess. Let's face it, having him there cross dressed would have been a major distraction, so your decision to not allow that to happen at the wedding can be understood. Your now offering to give him the dress and spend the time to help make it special by having pics taken with you in your gown is a VERY thoughtful and kind gesture. Even if he declines and says "nah, don't worry about it", he will KNOW that you thought about him, that you cared, and that you tried to make him happy. I think it's an awesome gesture. :-)
2016-05-23 22:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Kerry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you would be amazed at the amount of cross dressers in our society. Being a cross dresser doesnt necessarily mean they are gay, they just like wearing women's clothing. I chat to a man who loves wearing women's underwear, but he is as straight as they come, good looking guy, has 2 children, and loves women, and their clothes.....lol. If it bothers you, then sit him down and have a talk to him, find out what he does, where he goes, is he gay? Find out as much as you can about his lifestyle, so that you can understand it more from his perspective. Once you can understand your brother, it will be easier to support his lifestyle. Why would you want to stop him from doing this....its obviously something that makes him feel good. You need to talk to him to get a better understanding of why he is doing it, and if it bothers you too much then tell him to go op shopping, he can get a lot of nice womens underwear and clothing quite cheaply at these stores without depleating your wardrobe. He is only 18, and probably doesnt have the confidence to "come out of the closet", give him time. Give him your support if you love him, but if you dont want him to wear your clothes, then go op shopping with him if he is too embarrassed to do it himself. It is probably a good idea because then he will have a wardrobe all of his own where he wont need to steal your clothes. If you love him, get him some things of his own because all your protests will not stop him, all it will do is drive him further underground.
2007-02-08 11:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is best for you to sit down and discuss the topic at great length with him. You might be reluctant now, but in the end you might be the only person he could relate to as well. He is hurting noone and only wishes to do what he feels is natural to him. Go for the chance to get to know him better and feel good about it too.
2007-02-08 23:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by cadaholic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make him gay just a cross dresser, I have met many men who like to dress in womens clothes, some are gay many are not, it's fun to explore. Take him shopping in charity shops the women there are so helpful and know where to get very large high heels, or at least they did in Cardiff UK.
2007-02-10 11:07:55 · answer #5 · answered by selchiequeen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him if I were you. My sis caught me dressing in her clothes when I was 13, and instead of freaking out she let me continue experimenting with my feminine side. I guess she was smart enough to realize that I was going to continue dressing with or without her help.
Anyway, over all, it really helped our relationship as brother and sister, we are really close and we both agree that sharing my little "secret" was partly responsible.
She wasn't however, above using it to her advantage when she needed things done..you know 'Clean my room or else' lol
2007-02-09 03:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by gurlygirlhottie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The healthiest option is to support and accept your sibling. I'm genderqueer, not a CD, but my sister went with me my first time out shopping when I started transitioning from living as a guy to living as a woman, and the emotional support of having her with me helped a lot.
2007-02-08 14:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is something that he really wants to do you shoudl support him in. But don't try to trample him by trying to stop him. IF you don't want to buy his things for him, telling him that you fully support him but you do not feel comfortable buying him underwear and what not. But be open minded about how he is and support him.
2007-02-08 11:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said he's 18 so which makes him an adult so you should let him to what he wants
2007-02-11 07:07:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont try to stop him, just support him, talk to him and be there for him. He is still the same person just ahs some conflicting issues.
2007-02-11 20:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋