ok, so i am 14,male, and i dont really think that i am gay. i mean i go out with girls, and i like girls, i have a crush on a girl. but sometimes i see these guys at my school that i think are kinda good looking, and mainly, i just wanna look like them or something, cause they are popular, but i dont wanna like do anything with them or anything. i just think some guys look better than me, and "handsome" i guess. so does that mean i'm gay? just cause i judge guys too?
2007-02-08 10:52:19 · 27 answers · asked by monkey 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
no, the age you are most people compare themselves to others. there is nothing gay about that, but you do need to find the good things about yourself and not worry about what others look like. confidence is what makes a person look good and that vibe rubs off on others.
stop looking at others!
as long as you don't have sexual feelings for the guys you aren't gay.
2007-02-08 11:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by showstopper18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At age 14 it is difficult to figure out how you feel toward others... And I would say only you can answer those questions, and no one else can for you, because although you would say one thing, you may feel otherwise.
From what you said, it does not sound like you being gay, but in all honesty, when I was your age I felt somewhat similar to what you felt, it was kinda close, but I had crushes on guys though, and it turned out later on that I was in fact gay.
Now, note... I am not saying that you are, and to be perfectly honest, I think you shouldn't be asking these questions to others, because the more answers you get, the more confused you feel in the end.
The answers are in you... allow yourself to develop and see where things go with you... remember, you are 14, your hormones are all over the place. I know my answer sounds silly, but I learnt it the hard way... and experience is the best teacher of all.
Wishing you luck. All the best :)
2007-02-09 11:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by Caoimhin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people (especially at your age) want to be like the popular kids. And, yeah, they're usually popular because they're good-looking among other things. It's totally natural to admire them and want to be like them. You probably don't realize it, but you are probably judging guys (and gals) that are unattractive as often as you are judging those that are good looking...it's just that the unattractive ones aren't making you question your sexuality. So, you recognize that some guys look good - this does not make you gay.
2007-02-08 19:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as there isn't anything sexual there when you are looking at the guys then no your not gay.
At that age you do look at others and judge them by the way they look or in your case think they are handsome or good looking.
I am 28 andhappily married, I look at girls and think they are pretty but I don't look at them or think about them in a sexual manner.
So there is nothing wrong with it. It's human nature to look at people and think they are pretty or cute or hot or what ever.
2007-02-08 19:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by blondie21_97504 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definately does NOT mean your gay. I know that my friends bf judges guys too... ive known a lot of guys who can judge guys, just like girls judge girls w/o being gay. its actually pretty normal to be able to look at someone and think they're better looking and want to look like them. so, no i dont think youre gay.
2007-02-09 00:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I do the same thing. Its cool to compare your self to other guys. I would look at muscle mags and think man I want to look like this guy and i'd motivate me to work out more. It doesn't mean that I was gay and it doesnt mean that you're gay with your situation either.
2007-02-08 22:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Ace of Blackness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are gay. Why kid yourself? Do you have airbrushed posters of boy-bands on your wall. Yes. Cry at movies? Yep. Big Mariah Carey fan? Affirmative. Do you enjoy cross-stitching and shopping for new shoes? That would be a yes. The clues are endless, funnyboy
2007-02-10 14:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by tom c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not gay, unless looking at other boys is giving you an erection or sexual feelings of some kind.
It's normal to look at other people your own age and compare yourself and wish you could look like them.
If you are capable of seeing another boy is good-looking, it just means you have eyes and a brain.
2007-02-08 22:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Your not Gay. When I was 14 I did the same thing
2007-02-09 20:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. My understanding is that boys who are gay are usually pretty sure about it. The urge to be with other boys in a sexual way is overwhelming. Just relax, because even if you do come to the conclusion that you are gay or bi, you are the way you are! Accept who you are. Be who you are. You are good just the way you are.
2007-02-08 19:03:41 · answer #10 · answered by Ellie S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋