do you undrestand what i'm saying NOW!! and it's not like he's gonna leave me or i should leave him we have a child now and I know there's pressure and all but it feels like he's not paying any attention to my wants and needs!!
2007-02-08 10:38:29 · 7 answers · asked by love_bug_baby4626062000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
here's what i ask u and any woman with similar issues. are YOU doing all that YOU can do to keep your sex life exciting? i'll bet money you are not. women need to understand that the onus on initiating sex does not fall solely on the man. especially in long term relationships because people tend to get comfortable. and when i say initiating i don't mean coming to bed in a rayon nightgown instead of your usual flannel pj's.
when's the last time u woke your man up with a BJ?
when's the last time u just laid next to him and began fingering your self while lickin your own nipples or sumthin?
when's the last time u did ANYTHING out of the norm to intiate sex?
if u aren't doing anything different/crazy/outrageous to keep it spicy, what the HELL are u complainin about??
2007-02-08 10:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a child is born prior to marriage, men feel as if they are in a rot cause if they don't love their girlfriend, they see that they have no choice now but to stay in a loveless relationship for the sake of the baby and to be responsible as a father figure.
2007-02-08 19:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him know that the sexual frustration is getting to you, just like it would him if the shoe was on the other foot. Men tend to "stereotype" us women as people that don't want sex much, because they hear other women say that, or have bad experiences. Personally, I like it and like it a lot. If he won't listen to you about it, then maybe you could see if he'd be willing to stimulate you in other ways until his libido comes back. If not, you might have to walk away. It's better to just find someone better suited to you than cheat....but a girl's gotta do SOMETHIN!
2007-02-08 18:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our libidos can be fragile things. Are you both cooling off about sex? Or is one more interested than the other? It must be confronted now and the sooner the better. Hot it up a little if nothing else.
2007-02-08 18:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then take your behinds down to Therapy and have pre-marriage counseling to work it out.
Maybe it will help ya'll figure out why you didn't get married before you had a child.
2007-02-08 18:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if you have a kid together. If you want to work it out for the two of you great, but quit making the kid an excuse.
2007-02-08 19:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then pleasure yourself 'till you can find a solution to your marriage issues.
2007-02-08 18:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋