My 17 y.o. step son spends every other week-end, summers and holidays at his mom's. Mom lives at the beach which I'll admit is pretty cool. My question is, why are my step-son's girlfriends allowed to spend the week-ends at his mom's house? Aren't they worried about what goes on down there? By the way, the mom changes husbands, fiances and boyfriends all the time. She's always living with some guy. Their apartment is small so the kids sleep in the front room (unsupervised). And no, I don't have a say in this.
2007-02-08 10:32:36 · 12 answers · asked by katydid 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Since these visits with his mom are court ordered, he has to go. We have absolutely no say about what goes on when he's there. His dad doesn't like it either.
2007-02-08 10:53:58 · update #1
I certainly don't think that its appropriate that his girlfriend is sleeping in the same room as he is...especially being unsupervised. You can only count on the fact that you have taught him to be responsible, and he will apply the values that you have instilled in him. Have a talk with him...klet him know that you don't think this is acceptable...and talk about safe sex...just to cover all your bases.
2007-02-08 11:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the teen girl's parents don't know that she spending the weekend with a boy. Kids lie. I would have a hard time with this arranngement also. Pretty soon, someone's going to end up preggo's and then what? We're in the same situation with our stepdaughter and going to her mom's house. No supervision there and the child is running the streets doing God knows what. She lies to us all the time. She's sneaky.
2007-02-09 00:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well we all have different lifestyles and in this situation it sounds like this woman is alright with that, cause she herself doesn't take those things to serious, but thats ok cause were all not perfect and who is to say having many different relationships is bad.she is single so she can do whatever she pleases, and if she wants to live with some guy, thats her business. the way she raises her son is the way she knows how to, and whatever happens in her house, is her responsibility. she is the one who deals with the consequences. same goes to the moms who let there daughters stay in that house. as long as your step son respect your house. as for the father if he has a problem with it then i am sure they can come to some kind of agreement, but these things do happen in her house. of course you don't have a say in that situation he is not your son and it doesn't happen in your house. just raise your kids they way you want.
2007-02-08 11:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my religion girls are seperated from their brothers at the age of 7 years old. They are seperated from all boys throughout their lives until their marraige which is usually 14 years old. We see girls as adults as soon as they get their first period. By the way my religion is Islam. And no I wouldn't allow that even if I wasn't a Muslim.
2007-02-08 13:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my moms the same way she lets me do what ever i want (my dad dont know) i think it just means shes trusting i mean yea she thinks i do things like drugs and sex but she never confronts me about it just my step family i dont like it but i cant change it and theres not anything you or your husband can do it is court ordered so like i said theres nothing you can really do i doubt shell change.
2007-02-08 11:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by eaw_mkj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the mom does the same stuff the boy does. If she goes threw men like that then she shouldn't care what he does.
2007-02-08 10:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by wetcat2009 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't have a problem with it because of her own loose morals. That's so sad that your step-son doesn't have the moral backbone to put a stop to it himself.
I won't even let my 25 yo brother and his girlfriend share a room when they come to visit us and they live together.
2007-02-08 10:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't have a say in this matter. Dr. Laura preaches to people like you all the time- they aren't your kid. He is a step kid and you have no say in what his mother and father allow him to do. You can do your best to advise your husband to ask his exwife to stop this, but you don't have a say and there is nothing else you can do.
2007-02-08 11:05:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i would never let my daughter do that. or a son for that matter. its just not right for a mother to let her 17 y/o son sleep with his g/fs over the weekend. supervised or not, these girl's mothers shouldnt let them do it either!
2007-02-08 16:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish my mom would leave me unsupervised like that.
2007-02-08 10:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by Emily 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋