Im contiplating if i should tell my best friend that i think im bi. I really want to kno if thats a good idea. And just for the record, my friend is a girl. Please help me....im sooooo confused, and this would be the first person i have ever told.
2007-02-08 10:24:02 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
yes! coming out may be tough, but you will feel much better. if your friend is worth anything, she will be supportive, even if it takes her a little while to get used to the idea.
2007-02-08 10:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by scruffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you are bi, or are you at the age where you want to experiment? I dont believe there are true bi people out there...I think a person has a leaning towards one sex more than they do another. I also believe people can have sex with both sexes but are not bi. They would much prefer to be with one particular sex than another, but with society's taboos, they do what society expects of them, and being bi, is far more acceptable than being homosexual. Its my opinion only, based on my experience as a counsellor and I have found that most "bi" people would much prefer to be with their own sex. Do you want to be intimate with your best friend? If you do, then you need to tell her. If not, it really doesnt matter what your sexual preferences are, because your sexual preferences do not determine you as a person. You are still the same person no matter what sexual preferences you have, but there are a lot of people who have misconceptions about this. They think that once you admit to being gay or bi, you want to get into their pants. I have lots of lesbian friends, as well as gay guy friends. None of them want to get into my pants...well I know the gay guys dont.....lol. The women accept me as their friend and they know I am not interested in being with a woman, but we are still firm friends. If you think your friend is open enough and doesnt judge a person based on thier sexual preferences, then tell her, if you think it will change your friendship, then I wouldnt say anything. And even if you want to have a sexual relationship with her, think very carefully before you do, because it could ruin your friendship.
2007-02-08 18:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A better way of wording it if you're not entirely sure is to say that you're confused about/questioning your sexuality. It's honest and doesn't lead to any substantiated assumptions about your sexuality. It gives you room to figure it out with less pressure from the assumptions of others while still being honest with the people close to you.
2007-02-08 23:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, i have nothing against gays or bi's... but honestly, i think bi's are more comfortable to be around than gay's... because atleast they can still have babies and such the normal way if they wanted... and they arent totally excluding anything...
If your friend is really good, she will accept it... if not, then oh well, you will make new friends...
2007-02-08 18:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is your friend. She will love you no matter what. If she doesn't she isn't your friend.
2007-02-08 18:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by pretty_as_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋