I have two friends, but they don't like each other and are always fighting. What should I do? Please, no sarcastic remarks.
2007-02-08 10:21:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That is a tough position to be in, but if one friend tends to bog you down with gossip of the other..that can be rather uncomfortable.
Simply explain that you like each one individually and you share a special friendship, and you care for both of them equally. When one brings up the other let her/him know this is not fair to you, and your wishes to choose or be friends with someone is your choice and to please respect that. I hope this helps, and I know this is an awkward situation.
Good Luck
2007-02-08 10:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess you just need to go out with them separately. Let each of them know that you like the other and say I want no sarcastic comments about the other. To keep it to themselves. It's hard sometimes to choose and I don't think you have to. Do the best you can and maybe someday you can show both of them the good qualities of both people. Good luck!!!
2007-02-08 18:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with each of them,but at seperate times. Most of my friends wouldn't hangout with each other, that doesn't stop them from hanging with me.Nobody has groups of friends that get along just fine, and if they do somebody is probably talking trash behind somebody's back. Don't stress, I'm sure they won't mind hanging out with you at different times. And when they talk about the other friend (which they will because they don't like each other) don't let them finish because then it's you being the fake friend.
2007-02-08 18:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by tosha004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well they should now each other better and go out some where so they can talk they indifference and find what they have in common like :favorite color or music , etc.......
try that they should stop fighting because violence doesn't solve problems into families or friends .
BYE ! ! !
2007-02-08 18:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by sexygirl58741 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything. They're both your friends and if they can't work out THEIR problems that has nothing to do with you. You like both of them. If they tell you to choose then tell them both to F off. It doesn't concern you and no real friend would ever make you choose. Good luck
2007-02-08 18:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. I know thats a short answer but life has to many problems and youll be faced with worse problems. Let them fight their own issues.
2007-02-08 20:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by animatelifeforce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally understand where u are coming from!!! my two best friends of about 14 years absolutly hate eachother.... when we were in highschool they tried getting along for my sake because they knew it was gettin to me that they would always talk **** about one another and constintly argue when they were around eachother..... **** finally hit the fans and i told them i wasnt gonna be able to be friends with either of them anymore! i moved away for about 7 months and came back it made them realize how important i was to them and how childish they were acting. Now i am still best friends with both of them and they still hate eachother but they have learned never to discuss one another to me and i hang out with each of them seperatly things are fine now. you have to tell them that if u are gonna continue to be friends with each of them they have to promise to not talk about one another to you and things will get better as long as u make it clear u will not have it anymore!! good luck girl
2007-02-08 18:39:20 · answer #7 · answered by breezy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am personally kind of one of those bestfriends right now. i used to be best friends with both abbey and lacey and we were like 3 musketeerish.. but abbey has another good friend tara who doesn't like me much so we've been sorta drifting apart..we're still friends but we only really talk in the 3 classes we have together. so now we both consider lacey like our best friend and i constantly feel myself pressuring her to hang out with me, even though i know its wrong.
i think you should try to avoid the gossiping. and yeah don't let them try to make you choose. tara and abbey have told lacey that she has to choose, but i would never do that. it's a tough situation but just try to make the best of it and have as much fun as possible.
2007-02-08 19:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry... my friends r like that.. one don like the other.. they don fight but wen they r w/ me they talk sh*t abt each other.. wich makes me look bad.. i simply ignored it..
it's not ur problem.. let it go.. ignor it.. u can't do anyhtin else other then that.. .. if it really bothers u soo much then i would suggest that u tell them to stop fightin wen u r around..
hope my asnwer helped u...
2007-02-08 19:06:27 · answer #9 · answered by ifaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i used to hang out with a group of people, we where like 8, 4 guys and 4 girls, i used to hang out with all of them, but 3 of the girls, with they are best friends, had a problem with the other one, so they dosnt talk to each other, and i like to hang out with all 4 of them, but i cant now, so i go sometimes talk to one and sometimes go talk to the other 3, and sometimes to neader, but they are really ignorants and there was a time when all of them got mad at me because i was talking to everybody, so i ignored them and stoped talking to them, then they started talking to me, and its the same, sometimes with one, sometimes with another.
2007-02-08 18:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by jose r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋