Advice please?

Question

Ok, so last year I moved back to a place that I lived in before, and I started to hang out with my same best friend from 4 years ago again. But his friends he introduced me to are mean *** holes. And the best friend isnt the same as i remember either. I know I should just leave them, but in high school, its alot harder to just move to a different group of friends, any advice ?

Answer 1

Stay the heck away. Mean people suck.

Answer 2

Moving back into old neighborhoods can be tough, especially if a lot happened there when you were living there. It's just because you're going back to a place that changed while you changed, because, as my favorite social studies teacher said, "Things don't stay the same. They move forward and change." And you're just not aware of the changes that occurred there. The changes that occurred in both parties can result in a conflict, because they no longer share the same values, and no longer believe certain things that bound you together at one point.

If this friend isn't the same, and makes you feel bad/uncomfortable, let him know that. If he responds positively and accepts it and tries to change, then that's great -- you can keep your friendship (alos understand, though, that he might expect you to change if you're expecting him to change so that it'll be fair). If he responds negatively, and doesn't want to change to be your best friend again, then just tell him that you had a nice friendship with him before, and that you wish it could've worked out but b/c it didn't, you both need to move on. Understand, though, that this is just my advice -- only do what you feel is best because you're the one who knows the most of the relationship you had. All that I'm saying here is just coming from the info you gave in the question.

As for finding a new group of friends, you just need to really REALLY be yourself and make yourself available. Don't act like someone you're not because then you'll attract those kind of people, which may not be best for you. Act like yourself, and make sure you make yourself open to new friends, and eventually people will notice you and do/say something to get your attention.

Most importantly, though, just make sure you trust and believe in yourself, because only you know best what's good for you and you need to really trust yourself 100% to ensure that everything works out for you. Good luck with this, you'll get through it -- I wish you all the best. ^_^