i think i just realised why, i have almost to none girl friends (i mean as friends), because i noticed that everytime im around girls, i start looking at them, if they would be a good match for me, and if im not i just loose interest, in such a way that even if they find me interesting i just dont care and dont pay attetion pay attetion. I know thats bad, i tried to stop it today, but just ignoring those thoughs but, is hard.
what can i do?......i mean if i cant even make girl friends, how is it possbilew to even have a girlfriend.
2007-02-08 10:16:05 · 10 answers · asked by Mark-0 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
put on some deoderent. that will help you get some gfs
2007-02-08 10:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by chicago cub's bat bunny 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well your just being honest and voicing the truth about what most men feel inside and simply are not saying.
It's as a guy told me a looooong time ago when i was much younger and i tried to disagree with. Imagine me telling a man he is wrong about a man! He told me, men cannot just be "friends" with a girl. And i have found this to be true. He cannot until he has slept with her at least once and gotten that out of the way. Oh and also if he is gay then he can be "just friends" with no motives. Mind you this isn't true for ALL men. Just MOST. So either pretend like the rest of guys do, to be her "friend" or simply stay away from the girl unless you are dating and look to male friends as friends and females as girlfriends....err...dates...you know what i mean.
However, if you are a virgin and still feeling this way, Disregard everything i just said. PEOPLE AWAY FROM THE THUMBS DOWN. And i will let someone else at this one.
Is this in psychology? I think this should be in dating topic. I am not good in the dating area that is why i am married.
2007-02-08 10:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by LM 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
one of my housemates kinda has a similar problem, except she doesnt realise it. She also thinks that if she likes a guy then they automatically like her back! If bloody only!
Its good that you noticed this and you should try to make an effort with a girl even if she does not seem interested in you, you never know what her mates might be like.
As for not habing any female friends, there are plenty of guys that don't so don't worry about that it's perfectly normal.
Hope this helps you! x
2007-02-08 10:28:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, girls are people. They might be cuter and softer and all that, but you gotta think of them as people first. You gotta show respect. Think how you would react if guys looked at your mother like that, or your sister. Of course, you can't show respect if you don't have any for yourself. Find respect in yourself first and second, quit thinking with your hormones. Use your brain cells and treat girls like you want to be treated and not as objects. That is the only way you are going to win a girls heart when you find the right one and when you find the right girl you won't have to size her up as a GF. You'll know. So grow up a little and give the girls your full attention as a friend. Who knows, if you pay attention you might find the right girl under your nose.
2007-02-08 11:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You hit the nail of the head, you said "if I can't be friends with a girl how can I have a girlfriend".
You have to force yourself to change your attitude towards girls and think of them not as "potental dates".
Do you have girl cousins you could maybe ask for help, ask them to practice with you in how to approch girls only as friends. I mean your the only one who can change your possition but most guys do think the way you do, they will look a girl up and down and think ok is she hot enough for me , if not then see ya later or they will think you know what I may make a really good friend here. I hope I didn't confuse you.
2007-02-08 10:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look at them as your sisters and be kind and friendly and if they become interested in you then respond...That is of course unless you are into incest.
2007-02-08 10:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a problem. You have to think of the people you meet as PEOPLE. Not potential girlfirends/sex objects.
2007-02-08 10:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa A 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Become a hermit
2007-02-08 10:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by whyus?? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is the type of thing that makes me shy away from being friends with guys. ugh.
2007-02-08 10:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
stop worryign and crack them up.. humor solves all
2007-02-08 10:39:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋