Why is it that 99.9% of people I talk to on a regular basis irritate me?

Question

I find that most of them are so shallow and uneducated. No one ever wants to better themselves, they have no focus in life, they're more concerned about what they're going to wear to a party than what is happening in our world. It REALLY irritates me when I try to make conversation about current events, but no one has ever taken an initiative to watch/read the news.

Do I have a problem, or would this bother you too?

I'm not a person you'd see at the library fretting over my chemistry homework. I like to party as well as the next person.. but this happens every day.

I'm ok looking I guess, I'm about 5'6 135 lbs, brown hair and blue eyes. I'm also straight and I date a guy in a fraternity... so I'm not too introverted having to hang out w/his clan all the time. << his friends are more "in the know" than mine are.

Answer 1

it does but thats how it is .... u wont make anyone happy bringing up politics at a party ..

Answer 2

frustration leads to irritation leads to anger. Anger, as far as I'm concerned, would have to be THE most negative emotion that we humans are capable of experiencing.

A few years ago I was given to understand that my anger was irritating a lot of my friends to the point of them wondering if they could continue to be around me. So I changed. I lost my anger. almost completely! It takes an awful lot to anger me these days! I'm a very aware person, with a deep love of the planet. I know a lot about global warming, forest destruction, man's inhumanity to man etc. etc. All of these things used to make me...well...furious!

I looked within and realised that I felt horrible when I was angry. Having stopped, I realise that I am so much happier now and such happiness is reflected in the hearts and souls of those with whom I work and play. It's a pretty remarkable transformation that didn't cost me anything - in fact the benefits have been enormous!

The people you're around aren't annoying! It's how you see, feel, hear and experience them. Simply try opening your heart to them. Listen to what they say with compassion, tolerance and above all, RESPECT and you'll realise that if they are uneducated, they'll listen to your view. But ONLY if you treat them right! Treat someone with disdain and they'll think you're arrogant. That's not the way to educate someone!

Finally, all those problems you've described are THEIR stuff. You can't do anything about it! The best thing you can do for them is to show them respect for their views. Don't worry about things that you can't change - all that will do is lead to an early grave. Don't worry about the things you CAN change either. Just go change them! Like yourself.

Hope this helps!

Love and Light,

Jarrah
(hehe...not ONE mention of religion anywhere!!! cool, huh?)

Answer 3

You have a problem and you are irritated. Acceptance can go only so far and your acquaintance are not meeting your need. 99% is a large number of shallow and uneducated people, could it be that you need to relocate your ambitions. Are your views off the mainstream of thought that makes you different from everyone? I would look for some new friends and if that does not work make changes.

Answer 4

I know, it is ridiclous! Sometimes I feel bad because even looking at someone annoys me and creates the bad mood. I have this friend who annoys be to death and no matter what she does I feel like I really don't want to be around her! She tries to be the center of attention while doing something nice which annoys me, she will cut me off when I am talking and tell me about her like I should be impressed when I give a crap less! OMG the nerve of people. Then I will try to get my work done with my group and the girl in our group will not shut up about her life!! OMG, I don't care. Most of the time I just want to get down to business because to me it is not worth having good friends when all mine have stabbed me in the back! So...in short terms...I know what you mean!

Answer 5

if you're like me, "small talk" bores me, however I've learned to accept it through the years as most people are most comfortable with small talk. Eventually if the conversation becomes alittle more animated, you can introduce the deeper stuff, but yes, I"m afraid if you want to remain socially active and keep the friends you have, you will have to learn to accept the small talk to some degree.

Answer 6

Because they dont think like you, or either that they dont really care......99% of the people on messenger irritate me too and I will send a general message to people on who wants to stay on my list and who doesn't they want to stay but yet they do not say anything to me the rest of the time!! I guess MOST people are scared to face reality and whats happening in the world. I am more concerned about the polar ice melting than reading about who died.

Answer 7

It does bother me. I know what you mean. You probably have a higher IQ than the people you hang out with. Try moving to a college town or join groups that are college educated.

Answer 8

i agree that a lot of people annoy or irritate me, but not even close to 99/9%. i think you are exaggerating and if you aren't then maybe you should take a good look at yourself, it seems you must be pretty close to perfect so hang around with yourself for awhile and see if it's irritating or not. good luck.

Answer 9

You are a thinker in a society that no longer values thought. Try watching a few soap operas or "Reality" shows.

Had you ever heard of this woman who has just died that everybody is going on about tonight? I hadn't.

Answer 10

I think you might have an abrasive personality and they want you to chill. You can be passionate about issues, but don't try to force it on people or you will have very few friends. Or, start hanging out with far left wing dikes.

Answer 11

It doesn't happen to me, but I 'm guessing that if I were socializing with people who were only concerned with "parting" it would irritate me enough to seek an alternative....