I recently emailed my ex-boyfriend. Been broken up for at least 4 years. While we were together, I was horrible towards the end. A real b*@#&. He eventually broke up with me, but wanted to get back together right after. I said no takebacks. I got married a year ago. Love my husband more than anything. I've been thinking of how bad I was to ex, so I emailed him. Got to talking, found out he's married and a kid on the way. House, great job, the whole shabang. It hit me harder than I thought it would. Now I just think that could have been me if I'd have just given him a chance. He's one of those who loves you so hard it's kinda smothering. My life turned out more towrds the financially handicapped. Now, I can't wait to see if he's going to email and b/s for a while. Question is-do I still have feelings for him, am I jealous of the wife, do I think I want him now that's he's taken, what? I didn't want him to carry a torch for me forever. At least I didn't think I did. What is my problem?
2007-02-08 09:45:56 · 6 answers · asked by Greenbeatles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I did apologize. I told him I was an awful person to him and he didn't deserve it. I was glad to hear about all his good fortune and told him good luck. He said I wasn't that bad to deal with. I said B/S! He said maybe a little but we all are hard to deal with at times and moved on to ask about my life. I don't know if he's gotten over it blocked those years out or he's just being nice. Maybe I wasn't that bad, but I still think I was.
2007-02-09 01:13:43 · update #1
He's happy, let him be! The lord works in ways we will never know. You had moved on you love your husband. I think you should appoligise and be greatfull that you have what you have. Just because he has the whole shabang doesnt mean that your life isnt great either. You were a stinker to him for a reason, you said yourself that he was smothering to you. It wouldnt had changed.
2007-02-08 09:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...I think I could have written this myself. I am going through the exact same thing and I can totally relate. The only difference is I have a kid.
I can understand what you're feeling but it's too late. That part of your life is over and it will be great to chat and catch up but the more information you learn about him, the more you will obsess about it. I learned a lot about him and how we're still so much alike. I kinda missed that and it brought back old, fond memories. I don't think you have a problem at all. I think you have a kind heart that doesn't want to let that part of your life go. It will be better for you if you don't speak to him and just concentrate on your own marriage.
My heart truly goes out to you...I can't believe that someone else has the same situation going on as me.
Also...don't listen to these negative comments...you get a lot of people who give stupid advice.
2007-02-08 09:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by qtpie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just think that you never really got past the phase of getting over the old relationship. Letting go of a past and sweet relationship is like letting go of a deceased relative; you just have to have the courage to step up and say to yourself, "i acknowledge what happened, i have no regrets towards it, and i want my life to move on." If you can follow through with that, then you will have gotten over it(sry for soundin like dr. phil). I think you were just a little surprised that the ex-boyfriend was married and had a kid, and you expected him to still be single and wanting to get back together with you. Just give it sometime and try to let go of the past, because as we all know, the past is the past and will always be the past.
2007-02-08 10:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think everyone has those feelings. they wish their exes could still be pining away for them. im sure he had these feelings for you but it was at the time when you weren't paying attention. it's okay that he is happy, be happy for him, and be happy that you also found someone to be happy with. it's a fairytale ending, happily ever after.
2007-02-08 09:51:08 · answer #4 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are one selfish, silly woman. Spend all that time to make your marriage better. Shame on YOU!
2007-02-08 09:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you definitely are a b... and I hope this guy will have the guts to trash you because it is what I would do with a huge sadistic pleasure !!
2007-02-08 09:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋