cerfew for a 12 yr old girl?

Question

my daughter wants to stay out after school and hang out with friends what do u think is an appropriate cerfew for a 12 year old girl on school nights and weekends any suggestons would help thanks

Answer 1

I say, that 7 PM on school nights IF the homework is done by 10:00 PM and she is in bed by 10:30.

Weekends, if a friend's parent that you don't know or an older friend is driving her, 10:30 is good. If you are driving her and know and trust where she's going to be, 11:00 is ok. If she's going to a bar or bat mitzvah or otherwise well-chaperoned party, 11:30 is good. However, if it's a party where there will be no chaperones, an open party, or where you have a feeling drugs or alcohol will be involved, have her home by 10:00. No later.

Good luck! By the way, at 12, I didn't have a cerfew. My parents drove me everywhere.

Answer 2

Firstly:

The people who are saying anywhere between 10 and 11:30 is a good idea are STUPID! She's not even a teenager! I'm 14 and a half and my curfew is 10 at the latest, on weekends!

If you want to let your daughter hang out with her friends during the weekends after dark, she definitely needs a cell phone (pre-paid or cap!) if she doesn't have one already. Trust me, they are a godsend and mine has helped me out in a few past sticky situations.

I'm not allowed to hang out with my friends on school nights because I'm in Grade 10 and in advanced maths, which means I get maths homework four nights a week, as well as any other homework from other classes. This takes a couple hours anyway.

I do however get an hour and a half of time to myself, straight after I get home (4:15pm), so during that time I can do whatever I want. A couple of my friends live close to me so sometimes I'll walk to their house. I guess if your daughter still wanted to see her friends then she could do something like that.

After school she shouldn't need to see her friends anyway - she's just spent the whole day at school with them! Also, she probably has homework to do aswell, so really it's up to you as a parent to set the limits and boundaries.

All in all:
School nights: No later than 6:30
Weekends: No later than 8:30

Answer 3

I think that it is okay for a child of that age to hang out with some friends on a school night so long as you know what shes doing. Well curfew should be based on her bed time, and also how well she is doing, and continues to do in school, after the rules are set. I think that between 7:00 and 7:30 should be more than enough time for her and her friends to hang out. This will give her enough time to come home and do her homework, also it allows her to calm down and also still spend some time with family. Have it be a trial period and if there is stuff that happens you don't like, keep cutting it back. If she continues to behave and do well then continue to let her hang out till 7 to 7:30.

Answer 4

I'm sure she has homework, so on weeknights I would say 7:00.

Weekends I would also say 7:00 if she is not with an adult. If there is adult supervision on the weekends then I would suggest 10:00 or 10:30 (but only if you or a friend's parent is driving her home).

Of course, be sure that your daughter is not running around on the town without adult supervision. Even walking home by herself at night can be dangerous with all the weirdos out there. Better to be safe than sorry.

Answer 5

School nights= 10:00

If she wakes up at 7:00, then she would have gotten 9 hours of sleep, and 8 hours is how much you're suppose to get every night. So thats fine. You can even let her stay up until 10:30 sometimes.

Weekends and Fridays= 11:30 or 11:00

If she has nothing to get up early for the next day, then let her sleep in. If she has something to do the next day, then you make sure she goes at around 11:00 or so..

Answer 6

At 12, there is no "hanging out". You need to know where, who with, how is she getting there, getting home, and talk with parents, especially if she is going over someones house. A parent needs to be there. It may be overprotective, but too many things happen to kids these days. As she gets older, if she respects the rules, then allow her more freedom. I always told my daughter, "I don't have a problem with what you're doing, I don't think you are doing anything wrong, but it is my job as a parent to keep you safe." Depending on what she was doings, there wasn't necessarily a time issue as she was never without an adult. Now she is 15, I still don't have any real issues because we communicate. I do allow her more freedom, but she has earned it with her responsibility and communication.

Answer 7

The better question to ask is where are they hanging out? My kids aren't allowed to just hang around (they tend to get into trouble that way) but if there is a specific activity then they can go. Also if they are going to a friend's house after school a parent has to be there. On school nights my kids have to be home before dark. Weekends...well it depends on the activity going on...but probably by 10 is reasonable.

Good luck

Answer 8

Weekdays 7:30 weekends no later than 10:00

Answer 9

sounds like a surprisingly good baby. I enable my 13 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous (additionally in seventh grade) stay at friends (some homes down from ours) till 7:30 - 8:00 on weekdays and approximately 9:00 on the weekends. on the different hand I enable her girlfriends stay over as long as they choose and our house is the usaual carry close out/ spend the evening spot. that could be a discomfort, yet i think extra effective understanding thats she is in our residing house.

Answer 10

at 12 years old i would make her still come home after school do her homework and then hang out with friends if there is time. and she would need to be in the house by 7pm.