married and confused.....?

Question

I am 30 years old, I have been married for 10 years now and dated my husband 2 years prior to getting married. We have 3 wonderful children together and I love him very much. About a year ago, a guy we both went to high school with and his family moved back in our area. My husband and I had not seen him since high school. Well, he has 4 kids and they are the same age as mine and they go to school together along with other activities. This guy and I started emailing eachother about 6 months ago and we eventually told eachother that we are attracted to eachother. I am friends with his wife and he is friends with my husband. I feel awful because i am betraying both of them and I have never cheated on my husband before. We have kissed and messed around a little. I have deep feelings for this guy, but I think he just wants to have a good time. What should I do?

Answer 1

Step back and ask yourself if you're willing to destroy 7 childrens lives. Ask yourself how you would feel if your husband did what you've done with this guy's wife.
This is a huge betrayal, not only to your husband and his wife, but to all of the children involved.

Answer 2

If you love your husband. Stop this fling now before it gets out of hand. I understand you feel you are betraying your husband and with good reason. You need to make a decision do you want you husband and your marriage to work. If so stop this affair. Don't tell your husband it will destroy your marriage for sure. Men don't forgive like women do. Even if he does. He will never let you forget it. Also I think the feeling for the other man is just the excitement about being with someone different. You married young. But that is history now. Bottom line its your decision to make.

Answer 3

Married 10 yrs, have 3 wonderful children, you love him
very much: but now you ask what should you do about
seeing this other guy and emailing him and kissed him
and messed around with him. What is wrong with this
situation is you need to take a deep breath and get back
to reality because if you don't you will be the cause of
destroying not one but maybe two marriages and if you
have a consensus so there is only one thing to do
and that is STOP and STOP NOW.

Answer 4

Marriage is the most beautiful gift ever given, Why? because it is a beautiful representation of love and committment.

You ask, what should I do? But you know in your heart that what you are doing is wrong. Your husband, and his wife need to know the truth. If you want your marriage to succeed, if you want to find true love in this lifetime, come clean with your husband now.

Normally this sort of thing happens when a woman is emotionally uunfulfilled in her marriage. She seeks affirmation and love from someone else. Attraction occurs, and the next thing you know she's flying full force into an affair.

True love lies with your husband. The adventurous feeling you and the guy you are having an affair with will wear off and you will find yourself miserable when you've let go of true love.

Tell your husband and tell his wife. Do not keep contact with them. Show your husband you love him and understand that he will be hurt and angry. Show him that you are willing to work through anything.

If you aren't willing. Maybe you need to step back and evaluate what you really want here. True love. Or fake love.

Your heart knows what to do. Stop listening to your body and your mind.

Answer 5

First of all....you did cheat. Intercourse doesn't have to happen for cheating to occur. You obviously don't love your husband, nor do you respect him because you would never do this to someone you loved and respected. You betrayed not only your husband and your friend, but you betrayed your children. I am sorry to say this, but anyone who has been cheated on knows what I am talking about. After I got cheated ont he fiorst time, I vowed that I would never make anyone feel like they were nothing. I would never break up anybody's home. Wow. How about having some respect for yourself.

Answer 6

Many people in a marriage relationship feel the need to be with others sometimes, sometimes in your case I don't think you ment to do this, but sometimes feelings come up and you act out on them. im' guessing this is but a physical attraction? just think of a few things. 1.You have a family to take care of and obviously a loving husband who wouldn't cheat on you. 2.you would devestate another family, by messing around with there husband, and father. it will affect both families. i suggest you just tell him out, that you can't do this because it will affect both families, and if this conntinues, someone will eventually find out.

Answer 7

that is a bad situationyou see im in sort of the same situation my bro met this girl and there having a baby together but she kicked him out and he wants her back bad but a couple days after she kicked him out i went over there and we slept together. the next morning when i woke up the next morning for i felt so horrible for betraying my brothers trust. i felt so bad that i contmplated just leaving and moving away because i couldnt face him. i know everyone sya you should follow you heart but thats not always how it work dont ruin a good 10 year relationship because of lust youll regret it big time just cut it off and eventually things will come easy to you and youll figure out who you really love dont put ur husband and kids through that. i hope my advice is of sum help to you. goodluck in whatever you choose to do!

Answer 8

wake up... you're married, with children! and YOU LOVE YOUR HUSBAND!! if you need some more excitement spice up your sex life with your husband by using toys or something. if you don't want to stop, then tell them. if you're going to do it, you might as well be honest about it. but really you need to think about why you married your husband and if you still feel the same way... there has to be some reason you're doing this to him.

Answer 9

quit emailing him immediately; don't allow yourself to be alone with him ever again. It's a fantasy, keep it that way or you will be ruining the lives of eleven people. All the energy you have been putting into him; divert it and put it into your husband and family....in the long run, you will be so happy you did!

Answer 10

let it go- dont do anything else with that guy! you need to take some time and think about how much your marriage means to you-and if you want to make this last. do you love your husband? take some time for yourself and reflect on your life and marriage- and take your time. your heart will lead you in the right direction-
good luck.