Is it necessary to....?

Question

tell your partner how good se x was everytime you do it?
We had a fight this morning and he tole me that I never tell him how good it was.
I get off and he knows it - so i don't understand the problem.
He said that "normal people" always tell each other how good it was each and every time??
Is this how it works for most people?
As I'm confused?

I do comment that it is good most of the time I just don't want to have to feel that I have to every time!
I don't want to have a to do list for sex.
I agreee that there is no such thing as "normal".

Answer 1

Regardless of how it works for most people, obviously your partner needs that affirmation from you. It doesn't cost you anything to give it, does it?
It's sort of like the old couple, married several years. The wife told the husband that he never tells her that he loves her. He responds, "I told you I loved you the day I married you. If I change my mind, I'll let you know."
We all have our insecurities, and part of being a partner is being possibly the only person in the other person's life who we can feel affirmed with, and encouraged. So, my advice is to, as often as you can naturally, let him know how he rocks your world. As time goes on, you may see he doesn't need the verbal affirmation as often. It's a small thing to do to show how much you care about your partner.

Answer 2

My husband and I don't tell each other every single time. I like to think my husband and I are normal, but normal is just such a subjective term....

Answer 3

Emotional gratification, is a part of what suppose to make it so wonderful We Men, need to "hear" how good we are. At a lot of things in our Lives. We're not smart enough. Or patient enough to read between the lines. While you're going over that part. Try figuring out "Why" you don't love it enough to wanna tell him. But that's just my opinon.

Answer 4

Some guys are into that. Kinda like a self esteem thing. They feel good, that you liked it? I'm not a guy, but from a girls perspective, They might think you didn't like it. So everyonce in a while you could comment on it.

Answer 5

Because every relationship is different, you need to find out what makes yours flow. If you hubby wants a bit of praise, I really don't see the big deal? Do not base your decision on " what's normal"

Answer 6

Most people need a little affirmation now and then--it's normal and there's nothing wrong with it. Communication is very important, so let your partner know in words AND actions!

Answer 7

I don't think you need to say it each time. He obviously can tell when you have an orgasm. Maybe he's feeling inferior about himself. As long as you tell him now and then (not during sex) how much you care about him, that should be good enough. If not, then that's HIS problem.

Answer 8

you could say that was nice or i haven't felt that before, but i don't know of or have i experienced someone giving a compliment after sex. i think when you or they get off that is the report card for sex. unless your boyfriend thinks he is don juan and he wants to hear that he is a good lover. tell him to get over it.

Answer 9

You mean you don't smile and say to him "You rocked my world, baby!" ???
What's with all the man-bashing answers??? Is telling your husband he pleased you somehow "beneath" women now? Yeah, every time! Why not? It's part of love making. You enjoy each other and share emotions. You smile and hug each other and say "wow that was hot". Sheesh!!!

Answer 10

"normal people"? I don't think it's necessary to have a discussion every time! If it's good,doesn't he know? Isn't he normal?