2007-02-08 09:30:26 · 26 answers · asked by timothy m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen up Timothy.....I had one of you....relaxing with the friends turned in to drinking at the bars til closing time which then led to doing meth (so he could continue to work those 12 hour days) which then led to THE END OF US! While you MAY be a man with more integrity than the one I had but....if you work for 12 hours per day, how many waking hours can you possibly be spending with you wife and family? I don't think that spending time with your friends should be a flat out NO, but one must dwell in to the life of a 12 hour day working man.... you must ask yourself a few questions and answer them honestly: Are you attentive to your wife/family when you are home? Or are you sleeping? Are you helping your wife with dinner dishes? Or are you sleeping? Are you sharing intimate time with your wife? Or are you sleeping? How good of a husband do you consider yourself to be? Did you take her out for Valentines Day dinner? Or did you work 12?
2007-02-16 07:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you rather relax with your friends then your wife. Since you work 12 hr days I am sure you could give her a
few extra bucks to go out with her friends. She might just find a guy who is interested in spending time with her after a hard days work instead of his friends. Just think, she will then leave you
alone and not be a fan with a problem. It's a win win for both of you.
2007-02-16 14:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about? Your question is hard to understand. I'm sure you mean your wife has a problem with you relaxing with friends after work. If you don't help with chores then I'm sure she has a reason to be pissed. It doesn't matter if she is a stay at home wife or not. You HAVE to help with chores so that she knows you don't take her for granted. No one wants to feel like they are just a live-in maid, friend, sex-toy, etc. She wants to know that you appreciate what she does. It's not about taking her out to dinner, dancing, clubs, vacations, her mom's house, drives in the country, weekend get-aways, and so on. It's about you washing clothes, dishes, putting your stuff away, keeping the home tidy and neat, practicing hygiene, telling her you love her, not forgetting her birthday, anniversary, etc. and things like that. Then, after you are doing all that...if she gets mad at you for being out with your friends...and you haven't come home drunk and acting a fool...you have a rotten wife. Is she controlling? Do you share responsibilities? Do you treat her well?
2007-02-16 17:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question fell into a mud puddle. I hope you enjoy relaxing with your wife most of the time. She probably is working too; most women are even if it's all in the home. You're a married man. If you want to stay married, you'd better treat your wife as if she is number one in your life.
2007-02-08 17:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You think just because you work that entitles you to do whatever you want? Well, that can go both ways you know. How about as soon as you come in the door from work your wife left out to go party with her friends? Would you like that? No, you probably just want her to sit there like a house cat until you decide to come home and crawl in the bed, huh? You can't have it both ways.
2007-02-15 19:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by frigginhilarious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what a fan problem WI is but you have the right to relax. talk to her. but if you are always with your friends then she has the right to be upset. you work long hours and you aren't with her when you are home. your friends come first and that isn't fair to her. talk to her..
2007-02-08 17:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you really with the guys, or are you with female friends?
Maybe your wife has a good reason to think that you may be fooling around, and you're using this as an excuse. Come on you can tell me. "wink".
2007-02-08 17:35:25 · answer #7 · answered by pamipamela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you gotta remember who's *** you have to kiss tomorrow if you want action in the bedroom, your friends arn't gonna give it to you. Therefore you gotta listen to your wife. or you could just tell her if she is cool with you spending like 1 or 2 hours a day with your buddies and the rest with her.
2007-02-08 17:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try relaxing with her sometimes after all she is supposed to be your best friend anyway you may find out u still have a lot in common try it u may be suprised maybe then she wont break the fan when u go out with the guys oh yea u r supposed to be her best friend to
2007-02-08 17:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by slapjack458 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spare your time dont work so much 8 hrs a day is enough.. with friend you can do that once in a while coz your married your so friends is only a second place
2007-02-08 17:38:18 · answer #10 · answered by lene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋