He doesn't want to be ugly because he's afraid she wont let him see their son. He's even asked to not call no more. What can he do so this doesn't get ugly? I know she wants him back, but he doesn't want her because she a big time cheater. No worry about that.
2007-02-08 09:26:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He needs to tell her to stop calling and if she tries to keep his son away from him he will take her to court! Sometimes being nice doesn't cut it and you have to say things in a way that people know you aren't playing around.
2007-02-08 09:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I would do, change all the numbers in the house get a unlisted number.Then I would buy a prepaid or cell phone only for the son to call, tech message if there's a problem with there son.And if she has the number to his job, your husband needs to tell the phone operator he's not excepting any calls from her. She's to tech message or leave the message on the cell. This way she can interrupt your time together. O yeah she can use email to.
2007-02-08 10:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by sharon j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to deal with her. tell her that there is no hope of them getting back together and to stop calling over useless stuff. He could just not answer the phone and let the machine get it. if he thinks it deserves a call back then he can return the call. if he stays afraid of making her mad, then she has the upper hand. he needs to grow some and tell her enough. she can't keep his son from him, he has just as much right to him as she does and he can take her to court for it. if he continues to cater to his ex wife then this will become a huge problem for your marriage
2007-02-08 09:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your guy needs to get a backbone or else he will 'side' with this ex wife and probably believe what she says. You are in a trickey position because she is the enemy so to speak and if he is dumb enough to believe what she says even if untrue then you will be unfairly treated. If a direct confrontaion led to her moaning to him and he then sided with her then I think your man is sadly p*ssy whipped by the woman who left him and still has control over his life. PS. I understand having kids means he may be kind to keep it running smoothly but if he always capitualates agianst her for fear of her using the kids agianst him then I'm sorry you are dating an unhealthily involved guy :(
2016-03-28 22:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a mediator. Can be a close friend or relative or hire one. Your husband will never have to talk to his ex but will still get all the important info about the kid and all that stuff. And change your phone number and unlist it. No matter what, this is always going to cause tension in your relationship, take charge and don't let her win.
2007-02-08 12:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by pumpkinautumn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would politely tell her that there is no need to contact him so much - if it is urgent then alrighty but other than that she needs to realise that he has a new life now and that she cannot have evrything her way.
Don't answer the phone or get caller ID she will eventually get sick of ringing with no answer or talking to voicemail.....hopefully :0)
2007-02-08 09:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's doing a good job of being a grown up.
It never ends. You need to grow up and get use to it.
Selfish people are given the right to abuse people in the name of the children. That's just the way it is. Someday help change the laws. My wife and I have put up with 15-years of this crap.
2007-02-08 09:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Invest in voice mail and caller I.D. I promise you won't regret it. Let her leave all her messages on the vm and then hit delete. Don't pick up the phone when it's her. I'm sure she'll get the hint if he quits talking to her!
2007-02-08 09:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee has changed his number 4 times to make his ex stop calling. And they don't even have kids! I agree with the caller id thing. If he is not available every time she calls, she will eventually stop calling.
2007-02-08 09:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should stay out of it. She has the right to call him regarding the kids. Question is how much is reasonable. That's up to him to set up a reasonable "best to call" schedule and stick to it except for emergency. He can make sure his X receives it. She cannot deny his visitation right. In the event he goes to family court, he can submit that schedule as evidence.
2007-02-08 09:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋