We are a married couple who are friends with another married couple. We are not that close but we have gotten together over the last five years for dinner and such and have a good time. He is actually my husbands friend but he and I have always gotten along. His wife, in person is ok but on the other hand, does not respond to my repeated attempts over the years to talk to her on the phone or by email. Would it be wrong for my husband and I to meet up with just him or should just he and my husband hang out. I am not saying for him and I to hang out that would be inappropriate but I enjoy talking with him and just because his wife is unreciprocal to me, why can't I continue to talk to him (with my husband present) once in awhile over drinks and dinner? It would be really awkward at this point to have her there since she so obviously doesn't want to reciprocate and stay in contact with me. suggestions on how to handle this situation.
2007-02-08 09:16:31 · 8 answers · asked by kewtber 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You said that when you get together you always have a good time. So what if she doesn't email or phone you back. She's probably very busy or maybe she's not interested in a one-on-one friendship with you. That should be ok.
Continue to meet like you've been doing. Not everyone is going to want to be your best friend.
2007-02-08 09:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely understandable why you feel this way. It is hard to pretend to be around someone that you do not like or get along with while smiling.
On the other hand, I think you know that it is only right to invite both the husband and wife. He chose her as a wife and you chose him as a friend. Think about it like this..if your husband had a couple that did not like you but would like to have dinner and drinks with him while you can do whatever it is you do. Oh course not. You will feel left out and probley hurt. I am not saying that your views on her are wrong but it is only right to invite both parties.
2007-02-08 13:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, by your question it's kind of understanding why she doesn't really want to communicate to you...You are angry at her and want to hurt her feelings only because she doesn't respond you. Just be honest with yourself, if you do not feel happy with her, it's not the reason for you to invite just her husband. They are couple, you have to respect it.
Take whatever people can give to you and be appreciate.
2007-02-08 09:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by Bella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it would be ok to just see him but only if your husband is there but make sure that the wife is invited to if she doesnt come then there ya go you got what you wished for
2007-02-08 09:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can stay get together as a couple with both of them and when you do jsut ignore her like she doesn't existe and talk to your husband and her husband only or on your phone, and if she talk to you just answer by yes, no or ehim
2007-02-08 09:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by sasavert 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i would just let your husband go unless his friend invites you and thinks its ok with his wife.
2007-02-08 09:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the invitation needs to be to your friend and his wife; let her decide whether she will be there or not...take the high road;
2007-02-08 09:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be friends with who you wish and let the chips fall where they may!
She's the one with a chip on her shoulder, screw her... LOL
2007-02-08 09:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋