they say that I am only causing problems for myself. He has three kids from previous marriages...but I think we can work thru all that. How can I get my parents on my side???
2007-02-08 09:14:30 · 7 answers · asked by Tiffany J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if u really love dis man and he loves u back u should. as for the children u should be nice to dem, show dem u care about dem and dey father, and bondin wit dem.
2007-02-08 09:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by Rene C 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Three kids from previous marriages? How many times has this guy been married and how old are all these kids? I don't think your parents' objections are necessarily over the fact that he's black. Your parents want you to reconsider becasue this guy has way too much baggage and he obviously has issues with marriage and relationships. If you truly love him and enjoy his company, then continue to have a relationship. Just maintain your own separate home and don't get legally entangled with this man. He just sounds to messy.
2007-02-08 09:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are going to cause yourself a lot of problems. It's not because he's black but because you said you were "considering" marrying him. He has previous MARRIAGES?? How many?? This in itself is a red flag. I notice that not one time did you say anything about loving him. It's going to take a lot to "work thru all that" and there's probably a lot more to work out than you can imagine. At least take considerable time to think this over. Don't rush into something that has red flags all over it. I doubt very much that you will ever get your parents to change their minds and that's another problem! Do you want to upset them long term like this? SLOW DOWN; BACK UP; REGROUP! THINK LONG AND HARD.
2007-02-08 09:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean work threw all that? I'm confused with your question, seems to me your parents are concerned for you because you are marrying someone who has "baggage" that maybe your not ready for not the fact that he is black...
2007-02-08 09:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you truly love this man then it doesnt matter what skin color he is & so what ifhe has kids right? u can work through it if u really love eachother. tell ur parents that u really love this man no matter what skin color he is. listen to ur heart. What does your heart say about this man. At first ur parents may be agianst it but once they see u have a succesful marriage then they'll accept.
i hope i helped u out=]
2007-02-08 09:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by miss_murder78 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok, number one: you stated "previous marriages" DUH!!!! the other women pry all thought the same thing.
number two: im not racist but your parents come from a time when it wasnt right, your white im assuming by you stated"a black man", maybe you should listen to your parents and look at the facts he's been married in the past more than once, he's black with 3 kids already. dont you listen to rap music, i hope to god you dont, but all black men want is a white girl to deal with their sh**. and white girls are quiet frankly way more attractive than black females. ONCE AGAIN IM NOT RACIST
2007-02-08 11:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by bensbass420 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
his race has nothing to do with your parents objections, they are however worried about his patterns in relationships the fact that keeps getting married, having children and then getting divorced and they dont want you to go through any of that heartbreak...
2007-02-10 14:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋